Before I begin, I would like to humbly and gratefully thank the many teachers I’ve learned from through the years about what to do and what not to do in relationship.
My heart deeply grateful for the most influential teacher and masculine presence in my life… Jack.
The relationship I’ve been in with Jack has taught me more about myself and my own captivating beauty than any other.
I hold this learning as sacred and dear for it has brought me back to myself and my own feminine joy.
I have also come to understand the brilliance of the dominant masculine (DM). The masculine presence is the excitement and passion in my life.
Ok buckle up, let’s get down to bidness shall we?
In all the years Jack and I have spent coaching such amazing, brilliant peeps, I’ve never talked to a DF (Dominant Feminine) that doesn’t want to experience deep intimacy and sexual passion in his/her primary relationship.
There is one thing that you MUST understand and put into action every single day in order to experience sexual passion and intimacy with your significant other (SO).
To know what that is, please keep reading.
It takes two to tango, baby.
Having a DF and DM together in a relationship is what creates Sexual Polarity.
Sexual polarity is the magical energetic force of passion and intimacy that vibrates between the masculine and feminine thus creating the flow of sexual chemistry.
It’s literally like the positive and negative sides of a magnet coming together. They just can’t help themselves, they’ve got to touch.
Now if you are trying to force two positives or two negatives together, they repel each other.
If there are two DM’s or two DF’s together in a relationship, there will be no sexual polarity. You will actually feel sexually repelled.
This is why the force of attraction sometimes fades away in relationships.
If you want REAL and LASTING passion you must have a giver and a receiver, or in other words a DM(-) and an DF(+), otherwise you’ll have two friendly roommates having sex out of duty or avoiding it all together.
If what you’re reading triggers you, read on dear one, we have answers.
If you don’t have sexual polarity it doesn’t mean that you aren’t great friends and you don’t love each other, but it does mean the sexual passion will dissolve if it hasn’t already.
This will eventually lead to the breaking down of your relationship, robbing you of intimacy and sexual expression.
Some people feel okay not having intimacy or sexual connection in their relationship, and for those people this blog probably won’t speak to them.
But for those of you that DO want passion and intimacy in your relationship, you’re definitely in the right place.
Speaking about sex and polarity, that brings to mind the caveman. Bam! Bam!!
The other day I was talking to a friend of mine that said, “I just want my husband to act like a caveman and crack me over the head with his club, drag me into a cave, and TAKE me!”
Now that’s some sexual polarity! Yes it’s true, those caveman moments certainly are exhilarating! LOL
The conversation I had with my friend reminded me of all the ways I see what a goner Jack is when s/he sees me, and I know without a doubt that s/he’s totally captivated and smitten by me being my feminine energy self.
RelationTip # 1: The driving force of the DF is to be captivating.
When I feel captivating (wanted, heard, seen) there’s nothing I can’t do because life feels exciting and hopeful.
When I don’t feel captivating or desirable, life feels like a damn drag. In fact it just sucks!
RelationTip # 2: Captivating your SO is a no-brainer when they’re your polar opposite energy.
RelationTip # 3: Body parts do NOT determine Dominant Energy.
Being my sexy captivating feminine self includes daily self-attention.
I adorn myself.
I love to look tantalizing.
I see my face and body as a canvas of creative expression.
I wear clothes that match my personality.
I love all of the vibrant color and texture I add to my canvas.
I have created my own perfume with sensual oils that I wear every day, and I keep my skin soft with coconut oil.
I LOVE my baths and get to the gym often.
I take pride in being a homemaker, mother and business owner.
Doing these things bring immense joy to me and oh boy is Jack captivated!
Honestly there’s no better feeling than when Jack come home for lunch, and gasps when s/he sees me! Talk about feeling cherished. 😉
What do you do to express your feminine self? What do you adorn yourself with? What are your sacred rituals? Come on, please share with us.
If you haven’t thought about this before, take some time, and think of creative ways to express yourself in your feminine essence.
Nothing is more captivating to the DM than a DF that takes joy in creating beauty and adorning themselves through creative expression.
I would love to hear some of your ideas.
Here’s to another beautiful week of being captivating! Ha!
Now I’m off to make our son’s birthday cake. Happy Birthday, Anders!
Peace & Sparkles,