You may think that Tiff and I never argue or get into conflict.
You’d be mistaken.
Over the past 9 years we’ve been together we’ve worked through MANY conflicts. Some very big and some very small, with a few in between.
Yep, we’re human.
Sorry to burst your bubble like this.
You may be thinking to yourself, “Well, in all of their pictures on facebook, they look so happy and in love.”
Have you ever found yourself dreaming of the day when you have a relationship that feels good all the time? Where there’s no drama or conflict to work through?
The truth is, being in a relationship will be the hardest work you ever do, and the highest of highs and the lowest of lows will be experienced.
So if you find yourself wishing for that day when you live in BLISS, remember the dog days will rear their ugly heads and when that happens, remember this, “Tiff and Jack said they have days like this too, and they work through it, so I know I can too.”
We want you to know that it’s okay to feel like crap some days, and to wonder how in the hell you’ll ever make it through the latest *brouhaha (I just love this word) you’re facing.
a noisy and overexcited reaction or response to something.
“24 members resigned over the brouhaha”
In today’s DIY RelationTips video, Tiff and I are getting real, raw, and relevant, and give you the 3 steps necessary to move from wanting to throttle your “other” to feeling that delicious connectivity you love so much.
As you can see, it’s not easy, but it is simple to move from pissed to blissed.
It’s 3 simple steps just like we outlined in the video.
How do you manage your anger? What do you do to calm yourself so that you can move into resolution with your SO (significant other)? Inquiring minds would like to know, share right below this post.
P.S. Know of anyone struggling in their relationship? Please forward this email to your best friends — or anyone who could use a boost of encouragement and direction.
There’s a brisk wind coming into my bedroom window as I lay under my feather quilt.
My nose is cold and I get to snuggle up to my sleeping beloved as I type this on my iPhone. Life does not get better than this I must say!
Winter’s coming early this year and I’m not surprised. I could feel it coming weeks ago. I was telling Jack that change was on its way.
Change always happens doesn’t it? You can count on it no matter what.
The funny thing is most of us try to avoid it at all costs.
Why do we do this?
The unconscious brain’s prime directive is to keep things the same, so that it knows what to count on. This is the “safety” default setting.
If anything pops in that’s unfamiliar we tend to get a bit skittish and exhibit sabotaging behaviors. Thus, most people are anxious all the time.
Even though change is not always the desired outcome for the unconscious, it inevitably rocks our world over and over again.
The only thing that won’t change is the fact that change is continually happening.
If we’ll learn to embrace the unknown and unfamiliar we’ll thrive in the place of unlimited possibility. This is where we can set our intentions, and begin to manifest our heart’s desire. It’s the home land of all miracles!
If things were to stay the same we’d be seriously limited and stuck in the same old same old. Who really wants that? Not me!
The Universe is always here to assist by saying, “Yes” to what we focus on. And I mean every single solitary thing!!!
So, what’re you thinking about? What’s your focus?
If it’s not what you want, change your thoughts straight away so the change that comes into your life will head in the direction you truly want.
The unknown is right where I want to be. And believe me, I’m there often!
I embrace change because I know that if I want more of anything, things must change from what they are right now.
Let’s embrace the unknown so we can make love with idea of change.
I’m going to close my eyes now, in this glorious early Fall breeze and meditate, then I’m going imagine how great all my holiday parties will be.
Ahhhhhh, beautiful things are coming . . . to you too!
Peace and Sparkles,
P.S. If you have a friend that’s going through a load of change, why not share this message with them today, and lighten their world. We’d be honored. 🙂
Everything she does is magic! (Can you hear “The Police” singing their hearts out??)
We’ve been very very busy that last couple of months, but this past 3 days has been exponentially CRAZY…to say the least.
Running your own business, coaching, speaking, having adult kids living with us for a time, a new grandbaby ready to bust out, lots and lots of videos, audios, and worksheets being created… creates a bit of overwhelm for my angel girl.
That’s putting it mildly!
It’s more like being a hand in the middle of one of those Dyson Airblade Hand Dryers, feeling like you’ll be blown out into space if you don’t have a firm foothold.
Yep! It’s been a wild ride.
The DF prefers lots of freedom of movement, no rushing, being in the moment, and not feeling to weighed down by life.
I know, I live with one, and have a solid understanding of the fact that Tiff does NOT like to feel overwhelmed…a common emotion for the DF.
When things get super crazy busy at our house, and Tiff is feeling frazzled, the sage wisdom of her mom always comes to my mind.
“Pieces parts little girl.”
Do you remember the timed math drills we did in elementary school?
To Tiff those drills threw her magical brain into overload and she would put her cute foot down and cry at the thought of such a task…that is until her brilliant mama solved the problem by taking a piece of construction paper, cutting a small square out of it, and placing it over the top of the math problems so that she could only see one at a time…voila! Magic!!
Suddenly Tiff’s world got easier and she could finish the drill in record time.
Sage wisdom, I’d say.
Just break it down into “pieces parts.”
Take it easy.
One step at a time.
And before you know it, you’ve completed the “test” with flying colors, and overwhelm disappears.
Nothing makes me happier than being 100% in deep with Tiff and all of her magical, emotional, and mystical ways.
The DF makes the world a much more colorful place.
Please let your colors shine BRIGHTLY.
P.S. I’d love to hear 1 thing that simplifies your life when overwhelm hits. Please share right here. Inquiring minds must know. 😉