[smart_track_player url=”http://traffic.libsyn.com/tiffandjack/035_-_Fear_Got_You_Down-_-_12-10-17_6.10_PM.mp3″ ]If you’re like every other human on the planet, you may have some fear pop up about this or that. This podcast will help you learn to quickly manage your fear. It’s so much easier than you think, but first you must identify what it is you’re afraid of–once you’ve determined this, there are 4 more steps (with 1 bonus step at the tail end).
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[smart_track_player url=”http://traffic.libsyn.com/tiffandjack/005_-_Cheese_with_that_Whine.mp3″ ]Today’s episode was recorded after a busy and enjoyable Sunday spent preparing food and the house to have all of our kids that live nearby over for family dinner. We were missing them as we hadn’t had a family dinner in about a month, which is a long time! Tiff said she was going to keep tonight’s dinner light and easy and made spaghetti (which still took at least 4 – 5 hours of kitchen prep time…”light and easy??”). I spent the day getting the yard ready for spring and summer. We pulled all of the yard furniture and fence art out and got everything cleaned up after a long winter.
I (Jack) like to say that I “worked my ass off,” which is a misnomer because I still have plenty of ass. 😉
My “working my ass off” comment takes us right into today’s show notes. “Would you like some ‘whine’ with that cheese??”
The main reason it’s imperative for all of us to stop whining and complaining is because it keeps us stuck in victim mentality and then we have a life filled with shitty things because our thoughts are creating our reality. Yep, it’s true!
This could give you a moment of pause, but never you fear, it’s truly the best news EVER.
You’re entire life is created by the thoughts you’re thinking!
There are 2 ways to get out of victim mentality and it’s FAST:
- Gratitude/Appreciation: Think of 5 things right now in this moment that you are grateful for.
- Change the word “can’t” to “won’t.” When you do this you instantly own your power and take accountability for your life, exactly where it is. This is the beginning of live a consciously created life as a victor rather than a victim.
The other part of living an empowered life means that you must make decisions and choose to have the things you want.
The 2 main fears blocking many from making decisions for themselves about what they want:
- The fear they won’t get it.
- The fear they’ll disappoint others.
The question to ask yourself when you’re stuck and can’t figure out what you want: “What would I choose, if I knew that no matter what, everyone would be happy about my choice?” (Just pretend that everyone you love and everyone else too, is happy about your choice…no matter what it is.)
Remember to stop the whine, by changing “can’t” to “won’t” and practicing gratitude. It sounds so simple because it is. When you shift your thoughts, your whole world shifts with them.
And that’s exactly what we want for you!
Tiff & Jack
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I’m the person that has the rare privilege of knowing Tiffany Ann Rose better than most, on this lovely planet, and what a gift she is.
I’m the person that watches her do kitchen magic as she prepares love-infused food for those with hearts that ache with loss and grief.
I’m the one that hears all about the nights she lays awake sending healing energy to those that are in pain.
I’m the one that knows her deepest fears and insecurities, and no matter how afraid she feels she still shares her message without faltering.
I’m the one that understands how much physical pain she’s endured and gets up and does whatever needs to be done anyway (without complaining, I might add).
I’m the one that knows how deeply the words spoken by her teacher, “no wonder your dad left, you’re such a bad little girl,” cut into her tender 6 year old heart.
I’m the one that understands how the standing ovation she got for a song she wrote and played for the whole school at age 10 still stands as one of the highlights of her life.
I’m the one that knows what she felt as a 14 year old being chased and beaten up by a group of girls from church.
I’m the one that understands how sweet her heart is and the vastness of her love.
I’m the one that wakes to her dulcet voice and luscious touch every morning.
I’m the one with her undying support and endless encouragement to be true to myself even if it means going from Suzi to Jack…my God, where did this woman come from??!
I’m the one totally and completely smitten and captive to her elegance and beauty, and proud to say it.
And I’m the one that wishes for you, to have all your heart yearns for, including someone one as magnificent as Tiffany.
P.S. And I know with certainty that a joy-filled life is for you too, no doubt about it.
Living authentically has been scary on occasion for Jack and me, especially as public figures. We never know how we’ll be received. We never know who our haters may be.
We live authentic lives because it’s the only path to true happiness.
Happiness is my deepest desire, and I’ll do what ever it takes to be happy.
Living in what another person wants for me makes me feel dead and unhappy. I won’t do it. Ever.
The reason we share our journey is so that YOU might find hope in living your truth. We love our human family, and we’re here as a support to you that want to create loving and abundant lives.
We often talk about our joy and happiness and how blessed we are, which may have left you with the feeling or idea that we’re just lucky and things are always easy.
Life’s not always a cake walk for us.
Being authentic, also means getting real.
Here are some real facts for you…
A year ago Jack’s sister died, and it was devastating. This month also marks the death of his dad, when Jack was 11.
We were terrified to tell the family of Jack’s FTM transition in fear that they would feel like this would be like another death to them. And sure enough there has been talk of exactly that. Now there are just a few in his family that will talk to us. We’ve been wading through much rejection, and it isn’t easy, in fact it’s heartbreaking for Jack and hurts my feelings that I’m not openly accepted or recognized as an important part of Jack’s life.
I think we’re pretty freaking awesome and have a lot of love to give, but we won’t conform to what others think we should be or do, so often it means, we’re out. This SUCKS!
When Jack and I together made the decision for him to transition, I knew it was right, but had to walk in pure faith all the same.
The fears that came up in me were hellacious. My biggest fear would scream that Jack might not want me anymore. I wondered how the testosterone would make him act. What if it made him mean? I was so afraid.
It took me a while to let go of the idea of “Suzi.” But now, it’s just Jack and it all feels so right! Three months in, and I count this transition as the greatest gift of our lives.
There are days I do break down and cry because I feel so tired of the backlash and fear of other people in regards to how I choose to live my life.
“Can’t you see that I’m more happy than I have every been? Why can’t you see me?”
Sometimes the fears that come up with running a business, being the mother of 6 children, running a home, writing articles, making videos, constantly doing my inner work so that I can stay in alignment and teach, and supporting my husband through his changes, is so overwhelming I feel like I’ll be crushed by the illusions I buy into.
Sometimes my fears get the best of me.
If it weren’t for Jack, as my partner in it all, the one who helps me keep perspective, and for all the details he takes care of, I couldn’t do any of this. He truly makes my life run smooth.
He treats me like a queen.
People see how in love we are and think it’s always been like this.
NO ONE has a clue as to what we’ve had to release and what we’ve had to do to be where we are.
It’s true, we’re deeply in love and have an amazing life but only because we’re willing to do the hardest things you could possibly imagine.
We live a life of trusting God and the universe implicitly.
We were both in difficult marriages to other people for 20 years before we found each other.
When we did find each other, we had to let go of every single way we’d always done things, in order to be together.
Do you know what that was like? OMG! There are no words to describe it, a true fire walk of epic proportions.
The great thing about all of this… We now have the answer to the hard question, “How do you create Relationship Bliss?”
This is part of our authenticity. Make no mistake, our life isn’t just a cup of tea.
It takes effort to choose happiness and live it.
What are you willing to do to be happy?
Are you willing to walk into the unknown?
Can you get real with the people around you?
Can you handle a bit of rejection?
If you said yes to these questions, you will have happiness and bliss!
You can start being authentic here, ARE YOU BRAVE ENOUGH to tell us one thing that others might not know about you? C’mon, please share down below.
Remember you’re not alone in this life. We’re right here with you, wanting to make things easier.
Loves and kisses,