Today’s episode was recorded after a busy and enjoyable Sunday spent preparing food and the house to have all of our kids that live nearby over for family dinner. We were missing them as we hadn’t had a family dinner in about a month, which is a long time! Tiff said she was going to keep tonight’s dinner light and easy and made spaghetti (which still took at least 4 – 5 hours of kitchen prep time…”light and easy??”). I spent the day getting the yard ready for spring and summer. We pulled all of the yard furniture and fence art out and got everything cleaned up after a long winter.
I (Jack) like to say that I “worked my ass off,” which is a misnomer because I still have plenty of ass. 😉
My “working my ass off” comment takes us right into today’s show notes. “Would you like some ‘whine’ with that cheese??”
The main reason it’s imperative for all of us to stop whining and complaining is because it keeps us stuck in victim mentality and then we have a life filled with shitty things because our thoughts are creating our reality. Yep, it’s true!
This could give you a moment of pause, but never you fear, it’s truly the best news EVER.
You’re entire life is created by the thoughts you’re thinking!
There are 2 ways to get out of victim mentality and it’s FAST:
- Gratitude/Appreciation: Think of 5 things right now in this moment that you are grateful for.
- Change the word “can’t” to “won’t.” When you do this you instantly own your power and take accountability for your life, exactly where it is. This is the beginning of live a consciously created life as a victor rather than a victim.
The other part of living an empowered life means that you must make decisions and choose to have the things you want.
The 2 main fears blocking many from making decisions for themselves about what they want:
- The fear they won’t get it.
- The fear they’ll disappoint others.
The question to ask yourself when you’re stuck and can’t figure out what you want: “What would I choose, if I knew that no matter what, everyone would be happy about my choice?” (Just pretend that everyone you love and everyone else too, is happy about your choice…no matter what it is.)
Remember to stop the whine, by changing “can’t” to “won’t” and practicing gratitude. It sounds so simple because it is. When you shift your thoughts, your whole world shifts with them.
And that’s exactly what we want for you!
Tiff & Jack
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- “Law of Attraction” by Jerry & Esther Hicks
- “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero
- “E-Squared” by Pam Grout
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As I Tiffany, look back on my life, I’m amazed at the lessons I’ve learned. I have much gratitude for this journey I’ve been on.
As a teenager I believed many negative things about myself and my world, much to my surprise that is exactly what I experienced. In fact, all of my greatest fears became my reality.
I didn’t understand back then how my thoughts we creating my harsh reality through The Law of Attraction.
I learned, believe me, I learned.
As a young married woman I learned that no matter how hard I tried, the only person I could change was myself. My failed 21 year marriage was not a mistake, it was simply a period of time where I got to figure out what I’m really made of.
I learned that I’m not a victim and that I get to create my reality by understanding no matter how hard things have been, it does NOT have to continue on.
If life is going to constantly change why not choose to have more of what you want right? Right!
I also learned that the kind of person you attract when you’re 20 is not the kind of person you’ll attract when you’re 40.
I’m grateful for the 21 years I spent married to my ex-husband because it gave me clarity of much of what I did’t want in my life so I can create what I do want.
Most of my life I suffered severe clinical depression and many health problems. I was in bed for a decade and spent 25 years on heavy doses of medications to manage my emotions and health issues.
I didn’t realize that I could manage my emotions and heal my body by taking a look at my thoughts. When you’re thinking negative thoughts your whole damn life you’re going to have plenty of negative emotions and pain in your bod. All the negative things I was thinking were keeping me in bed sick!
Once I changed my mind I changed my life.
It feels great to be off all the pills and living my mission in joy-filled days, let me tell you!!!
As a mother of 6 brilliant kids, and the cutest grand baby you’ve ever seen, I’ve learned much about surrender and trust in the Universe/God.
I’ve received many miracles in my life and observed them in the lives of our children, over-and-over. I could never deny the power of the Universe in my life and I’m so glad to know that I can count on it in every step I take.
I also know that no matter what we as parents say, our children will choose for themselves the things that feel most resonant to them…even if it looks like it could be the worst possible choice they could make.
It’s our job as parents to love our children no matter what they choose, and to remember that the Universe is also working in their behalf so we can remind them to create and trust.
It’s our job to live empowered lives.
When I speak of living an empowered life I’m talking about making clear decisions for what we want to create in our OWN experience and committing to those decisions, while setting clear boundaries of what we will and will not do for others.
If we will do this, we’ll experience much personal joy, and our children will learn by watching. Our powerful example will empower them to do the same.
Now at the age of 44 I’m living the life I’ve always wanted and it keeps getting better-and-better.
The greatest part of where I am today is that I’m with the love of my life and the match of my heart. The learning and growth that I’ve experienced in this relationship surpasses all of my learning combined. This partnership I’m in is truly The Key to creating the abundant life I now live.
I know that if I have the ability to find my ONE, everyone can!
Jack and I have the amazing opportunity to work with people all over the globe to teach them how to create the life they desire and how to have Relationship Bliss.
We love what we do.
After all I’ve shared I can say the biggest and most powerful lesson I’ve learned is that YOU get to have the life and relationship YOU want if you will choose to have it and allow it in.
That to me is the most exciting news ever!
What life will you choose to live? Do you believe that you can have the desires of your heart? Are you ready to do whatever it takes to allow it in?
Peace & Sparkles