I cherish you…

I cherish you…

Dear DF,

I often say how enamored I am by the tremendous power you wield.

Time-and-again you’re the one that most often finds your way to the Red Couch to clear your limiting thoughts, and to me this bespeaks tenacity and vision.

What a joy you are!

I’m astounded by the power I see before my eyes as you open your heart to share your deepest pains and desires.

The agony drips down your cheeks and you share how scary it feels to allow yourself to open your heart again-and-again, wondering if you’ll ever have someone to stand with you in your fear, holding you and loving you and seeing you, without trying to fix you.

There’s nothing to fix. You aren’t broken.

You’re whole and complete and beautiful. You breathe life into our world.

What you call your “mess,” I call nothing short of a miracle.

You steal my heart.

You’re the weather. Dark storm clouds rolling through, raindrops pelting down, only to find the brilliant sun piercing through the sky moments after. Beauty.

You live from love, desiring connection more than life itself.

“When will I ever be understood?” You say.

Your feelings do matter, even when no one is there to wrap you up and remind you how divine you are.

Sweet DF, your heart rules the world, because the only thing that’s really real is love, and you are love.

Sometimes we (the DM) get so lost sprinting towards the proverbial finish line that we forget we’re here to have joy.

You are joy in human form, and you being you, wakes the rest of us up…fast!

Thank you for being you, for without you, there is nothing. Life is stiff and straight, with no brilliant hues to stop us dead in our tracks and remind us what’s real.

You matter.

You’re seen and understood.

Be you!



Here I am, do you want me?

Here I am, do you want me?

Each time I write an article or a facebook post, I’m putting myself out there knowing my words may look funny or be misspelled because I have dyslexia.

It’s possible that my writing might be less than what I want and this makes me feel vulnerable.

In fact today’s message is about being vulnerable and why it’s the most important thing you can do for yourself and our SO (significant other).

Being vulnerable means you’re heart is open and you’re acting without defense. It means that you’re willing to put yourself out there warts and all, and to be seen no matter who the haters are.

This may sound pretty scary but the truth is, when someone, especially your SO (significant other), has the opportunity to see the real you… connection and joy are your possibilities.

Do you feel safe?

Our prime directive is to feel safe. And our biggest fear is not being wanted and ending up alone.

When you’re trying to keep yourself safe, things can feel pretty messed up.

Here are a couple of the problem areas:

  1. Living guarded . . . This is where you don’t trust that you’re safe and you keep your heart closed, while judging the behavior of your SO.
  2. Living inauthentic . . . This is where you don’t do the things you that you want to do, or have a negotiating conversation, because you’re afraid your SO won’t want who you are, or that you’re not captivating enough.

If you choose to live this way you may feel like you’re protecting yourself but what you’re actually doing is robbing yourself of joy and deep connection.

The soul is looking for connection, joy, fun, happiness, pleasure, fulfillment, success, and the list goes on. These things are only found in a state of vulnerability.

Being vulnerable and opening your heart (over and over again) is the only way to experience deep intimacy with your person.

Where are the places in your life where you struggle to be vulnerable?

Did you know that people want to know who you are and would love to hear what you say?

Your assignment:

  • For the next 7 days – I want you to share 1 thing about yourself each day with your SO or someone else that matters to you.
  • My suggestion is to share it with someone that you know listens and can be present with you as you share.

This homework is your ticket to living more open.

Feeling open is the first step to living vulnerable.

Here’s to JOY!

In fact I would love to have you share something with all of us right now that others may not know about you…go ahead, there’s a space right down below for your precious words.

Come on in, the water’s fine.

Loves and Kisses,

Tiff (the DF)