Does “feeling-your-feelings” make you wanna run away? Well, you aren’t alone. Mercury Retrograde is happening and the feelings coming up aren’t pretty. Tiff and I’ve managed to keep our heads above water, and haven’t had a knock-down-drag-out. Thank you to the Gods above!
We recorded this episode to buoy you up and remind you it’s ok to feel your feels. Even if they’re negative and feel damn heavy. We have super good news for you today (and everyone LOVES good news) about feeling your FEELS!
[smart_track_player url=”http://traffic.libsyn.com/tiffandjack/033_-_Stuff_the_Turkey_Not_Your_Emotions.mp3″ ]When you hear the word “emotions,” do you think of anger? Someone with a bright red face, screaming at you and blood vessels popping? Fear, anger, and disgust, are just a few of the emotions we can feel.
How about you, do you try to quickly stuff it away any negative emotion when it’s coming up for you?
Today’s podcast shines a spotlight on the importance of feeling all of your feelings and emotions, most especially ANGER and RAGE.
Sounds a bit daunting, but you’ll be so relieved when you learn why you must feel your feelings and let your emotions up to the surface. (Hint: Your physical health depends on it!)
[smart_track_player url=”http://traffic.libsyn.com/tiffandjack/027_-_I_Dont_Understand_the_Words_Coming_Out_of_Your_Mouth.mp3″ ]Perception is everything. When you think you know what another person is saying, think again. Assuming makes an “ASS of U and ME.” Today we throw open the doors to the world of communication that many feel to be confusing, but we clear the confusion and help you see it for what it can be, a great way to deepen your relationships.
This morning I feel called to write. I’m sitting on the couch, wrapped up in a blanket trying to overcome this nasty head cold that has me down for the count. Even still… I feel called to write.
I humbly ask God to impress upon my mind what needs to be read.
What keeps coming to me is my absolute knowing that life is meant to be a joy-filled experience. And I know the only way this can happen is if we remember who we really are and live from that place.
For the first years of our lives we are being conditioned by the people that love us and by the institutions we associate with. We are being told continually who we are, and how we need to be. So… we then began to live from other’s expectations.
Between the ages of 30 and 40, many of us feel fatigued, sick and unhappy. This is when we begin to ask the real questions.
We ask ourselves, “What is going on and why hasn’t life turned out the way I thought it would?” ” Who am I really?” “What is my purpose on this planet ?” “Do I even have a purpose?” ” What do I want out of life?” “There has to be more to life than this, right?” “God are you really there?”
These are the very questions that awaken you to the spiritual journey of coming to the center of your own soul and remembering who you really are!
Some people call this a midlife crisis, I call this a “Walk with God”. Now “God” is quite a relative term so I’ll just share what God is to me …God is the ever-present Power of joy and love on this planet.
When you wake up from the conditioned sleep of other’s expectations, you begin to have strong desires to experience new things that you haven’t allowed yourself before.
In your youth there was a time when you would rebel against your parents, but the rebellion I’m talking about is when you decide to rebel against your self imposed set of rules and regulations. This is where you throw caution to the wind, and say “Fuck It! I’m done trying to be perfect!”
I call this your “Fuck It” day!
This is a very important day.
This is the day when you begin to create consciously.
This is the day when you begin to allow yourself to have experiences so you can decide what feels the best for you.
This is the day when God whispers into your soul that there’s much more to life than living according to other’s expectations.
This is the day you wake up to your unrestrained REAL self.
This journey will take some time but little by little, experience by experience, you begin to understand that you too are here to live a joyous life by just being you.
You begin to see that what you’ve been missing all this time was your magnificent self.
Now don’t get me wrong, there are those that choose to stay asleep all of their life out of resistance to what is possible, but more and more I’m seeing people wake up to the possibility of joy.
And I do believe if you’re reading this, you’re one of those people.
Once you live from your real self, you notice that all the things you truly wanted in life will easily flow to you.
Wakey wakey my friends, life is about the journey not the destination. Buckle up because life just gets better and better.
You may think that Tiff and I never argue or get into conflict.
You’d be mistaken.
Over the past 9 years we’ve been together we’ve worked through MANY conflicts. Some very big and some very small, with a few in between.
Yep, we’re human.
Sorry to burst your bubble like this.
You may be thinking to yourself, “Well, in all of their pictures on facebook, they look so happy and in love.”
Have you ever found yourself dreaming of the day when you have a relationship that feels good all the time? Where there’s no drama or conflict to work through?
The truth is, being in a relationship will be the hardest work you ever do, and the highest of highs and the lowest of lows will be experienced.
So if you find yourself wishing for that day when you live in BLISS, remember the dog days will rear their ugly heads and when that happens, remember this, “Tiff and Jack said they have days like this too, and they work through it, so I know I can too.”
We want you to know that it’s okay to feel like crap some days, and to wonder how in the hell you’ll ever make it through the latest *brouhaha (I just love this word) you’re facing.
a noisy and overexcited reaction or response to something.
“24 members resigned over the brouhaha”
In today’s DIY RelationTips video, Tiff and I are getting real, raw, and relevant, and give you the 3 steps necessary to move from wanting to throttle your “other” to feeling that delicious connectivity you love so much.
As you can see, it’s not easy, but it is simple to move from pissed to blissed.
It’s 3 simple steps just like we outlined in the video.
How do you manage your anger? What do you do to calm yourself so that you can move into resolution with your SO (significant other)? Inquiring minds would like to know, share right below this post.
P.S. Know of anyone struggling in their relationship? Please forward this email to your best friends — or anyone who could use a boost of encouragement and direction.