Mother’s Day Flub Up

Mother’s Day Flub Up

It’s an interesting thing….the masculine thought process.

Finality.

I’m always working towards completion.

Have you seen this characteristic in the DM before?

I live it on a daily basis.

This past mother’s day was a perfect example of how finality and the masculine go hand-in-hand (in a not-so-pretty way).

I love buying things for Tiff.

Especially to celebrate the beautiful mother that she is to our 6 kids.

I spend time and thought wanting to pick the perfect card.

Have you seen the Papyrus brand of cards? They’re gorgeous.

I stood there forever trying to make my decision.

I found myself coming back to the same card over and over, and after much thought, that’s the one I picked.

I bought it, took it home, and wrote my loving epithets in it.

While Tiff was getting ready for the day, I sneakily placed the card on her pillow so she could see it when walked into the room.

She comes in, sees it, smiles, picks it up, opens it, and with a bit of confusion says, “Did you re-card?”

Talk about the wind getting knocked right out of my sails.

Then she reaches down and pulls last year’s mother’s day card out of her keepsake drawer and guess what??!!!

It’s the same exact card!

Good grief, people!! How does this happen??!

(This is where finality comes into play, please let me explain.)

Tiff laughed and kissed my face telling me how much she loves and adores me and I’m left speechless about the fact I literally gave it my all to pick the perfect card and it was the exact same card as last year.

It was so perfect that I picked it twice. 😉

One of the main characteristics of the DM is enjoying the finality of getting something done.

When it’s done we move on to the next thing (not giving much thought to what was in the past…because it’s already done…hence the Mother’s Day card fiasco).

Note to self:

Lighten up buddy, it happens.

Note to DF:

Thank you for loving us in all of our differences and what would seem to be thoughtlessness when in actuality it’s just a case of finality.

It can be perceived as the DM being insensitive, thoughtless, or oblivious.

Once something is complete it’s put out of our mind.

It’s not insensitivity, it’s moving forward to the next “dragon to slay.”

And if I had to remember every dragon of the past I couldn’t put my whole heart into this one in the here-and-now that’s wanting to annihilate me and the people I love.

Here’s to a new day as the DM in all of our finality.

Cheers!

Jack

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XO,

Tiff & Jack

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My “Fake” Family

My “Fake” Family

Counterfeit!

Yes I use the word counterfeit because I just read an article that said my wife and I have a counterfeit family. Well that is what a certain organization says anyway.

Definition: coun·ter·feit
ˈkoun(t)ərˌfit/
adjective
made in exact imitation of something valuable or important with the intention to deceive or defraud.

I read this last night and I’ve been in deep thought about it with several different emotions. My first emotion was shock and then I had a lot of ugly emotions pop up that I refuse to dance with. That being said, I have an opportunity to speak up and call this NOT TRUE!

Suzi and I have a very “Real” family and life. We have six successful children and in-laws, and our first grand-baby on the way. We run a thriving coaching business and we pay our taxes. We spend our lives sharing a message of hope, healing, love and abundance. Our intention is to love our fellow people and accept others differences even if those differences are something we choose not to live in. There really is no room for judgment as we are all living from what we believe and understand because of our personal life experience. This is the process of life and it is beautiful.

When a human being falls in love with another human being and they choose to build a life and family unit together, I call that love. I respect that there are those that would not choose to live the life that I live and I honor that. But calling my family counterfeit comes from nothing but pure ignorance and illusion.

The one thing I know for sure is that love is the only thing on this planet that is “Real.” I feel God in every movement of love.
My heart feels saddened because many family members that I love are part of this organization, and I can only imagine the distress they may feel hearing this comment and trying to reconcile their love for my soon-to-be legal spouse, myself, our children, and grandchildren. What deep conflict must be happening through many, many, many people.

There will come a day when there’s only peace and love on this planet, and there will come a day when there will be no more pitting families against each other. And what a grand and glorious day that will be.

Tiff

Is EGO Yanking Your Chain?

Is EGO Yanking Your Chain?

Peace, the ever sought after emotion in relationship.

Peace is a feeling of calm when you stand in an alignment place.

If you think peace comes by avoiding uncomfortable situations or pretending that everything is fine, you will soon come to ask the question . . .

“Why don’t I feel peaceful with the person that I love?”

If living in alignment is the key to peace you may wonder how do I get into alignment when my relationship feels so messy?

The answer is simple… if you’re willing to see where YOU are living in discrepancy and if you will let your ego rest so that teaching moments can be recognized, the universal energy/God will assist you by sending an experience that will give you clarity as to the things that you are choosing to do that are keeping your Relationship out of alignment and ridden with chaos, fear and heartache.

It can be extremely uncomfortable when facing your ego. When you realize that you have done something that keeps you separate from your sweetheart, you may feel like you are an unlovable person or will never be enough.

This is just another part of the ego screaming an illusionary tale into your mind. None of us are perfect, and the purpose of this life is to release ego so that you can truly stand in your personal power and create a joyful life with your beloved in every aspect. So buckle up my friends, this is what it’s all about.

My question for you today… Are you willing to see where your ego is keeping you stuck In relationship?

 It’s time to ask yourself, “Hmmmmm, is my ego yanking my chain today?”

Love & Kisses,

Tiff

Happiness is . . .

Happiness is . . .

Today I was just thinking about how happy gorgeous lipstick, sexy dresses, and yummy hair products make me.

I Really do you find joy in the simple things of life and I’m so grateful to have the ability to do so.

Oh I forgot to mention leather cowboy boots!

What simple things make you happy?

xoxo,

Tiff

Acceptance Day

Acceptance Day

Today is an acceptance day. Yes it’s true I had to purchase my first pair of readers at the age of 43. Jack says they’re sexy so… I’m going to wear them all the time.

Can I just say they’re only a 1.25. Ha ha ha ha ha! Sure makes doing my work for my iPhone a lot better.

Here’s to SEEING!

Peace out,

Tiff