We’re serious about living our lives in a way that feels amazing…whether it’s the way we run our business, how we interact with friends, what we do as a family, or the little things such as where we love to go for walks. Everything we do is done with our attention and whether or not it feels good to us.
When we do something that doesn’t feel good, it’s a fantastic opportunity to realize we’ll choose something different next time.
I’ve been feeling the urge to get our house in order and clear out the clutter.
Jack went out and bought me the Fly Lady book and as he was buying it the person at the cash register asked him is he had heard about the book, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” and told him it was selling like hotcakes. Of course Jack had to walk over and do a little reading (he LOVES to read) and quickly realized this was a book he needed to bring home to me.
We started reading it and quickly realized that this book was no accident and fit beautifully with how we live our lives.
The first thing we had to do was make a pile in the middle of the living room with every single piece of clothing, shoes, bags, purses, coats, etc. that we owned. Talk about a HUGE pile. Just seeing how much stuff we have was shocking. Picking up every single item, holding it in our hands, and asking ourselves, “Does this spark joy when I wear/use it?” If the answer was anything less than a resounding YES, it had to be released and donated.
It took us a few hours but we got it done and 14 bags later (all donated) we were delighted and surprised how good we both felt. Everything feels so much lighter in our house and lives.
Now that we’ve done the clothes, the next area we tackle will be our books. My, oh my, this is going to be fun!
In the not-too-distant future our entire house will have been drastically reduced and every single thing in it will be there for one reason only, and that is because it sparks joy in us.
We love living this way and I love the fact we get to do it together. I created a video of our magnificent pile of stuff (oh yea it’s messy) and how you can do this in your house and life too…
The minute you start clearing out the things that don’t spark joy, you’re life will become simpler and you’ll find yourself so much happier.
It’s an interesting thing….the masculine thought process.
I’m always working towards completion.
Have you seen this characteristic in the DM before?
I live it on a daily basis.
This past mother’s day was a perfect example of how finality and the masculine go hand-in-hand (in a not-so-pretty way).
I love buying things for Tiff.
Especially to celebrate the beautiful mother that she is to our 6 kids.
I spend time and thought wanting to pick the perfect card.
Have you seen the Papyrus brand of cards? They’re gorgeous.
I stood there forever trying to make my decision.
I found myself coming back to the same card over and over, and after much thought, that’s the one I picked.
I bought it, took it home, and wrote my loving epithets in it.
While Tiff was getting ready for the day, I sneakily placed the card on her pillow so she could see it when walked into the room.
She comes in, sees it, smiles, picks it up, opens it, and with a bit of confusion says, “Did you re-card?”
Talk about the wind getting knocked right out of my sails.
Then she reaches down and pulls last year’s mother’s day card out of her keepsake drawer and guess what??!!!
It’s the same exact card!
Good grief, people!! How does this happen??!
(This is where finality comes into play, please let me explain.)
Tiff laughed and kissed my face telling me how much she loves and adores me and I’m left speechless about the fact I literally gave it my all to pick the perfect card and it was the exact same card as last year.
It was so perfect that I picked it twice. 😉
One of the main characteristics of the DM is enjoying the finality of getting something done.
When it’s done we move on to the next thing (not giving much thought to what was in the past…because it’s already done…hence the Mother’s Day card fiasco).
Note to self:
Lighten up buddy, it happens.
Note to DF:
Thank you for loving us in all of our differences and what would seem to be thoughtlessness when in actuality it’s just a case of finality.
It can be perceived as the DM being insensitive, thoughtless, or oblivious.
Once something is complete it’s put out of our mind.
It’s not insensitivity, it’s moving forward to the next “dragon to slay.”
And if I had to remember every dragon of the past I couldn’t put my whole heart into this one in the here-and-now that’s wanting to annihilate me and the people I love.
Here’s to a new day as the DM in all of our finality.
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Yes I use the word counterfeit because I just read an article that said my wife and I have a counterfeit family. Well that is what a certain organization says anyway.
made in exact imitation of something valuable or important with the intention to deceive or defraud.
I read this last night and I’ve been in deep thought about it with several different emotions. My first emotion was shock and then I had a lot of ugly emotions pop up that I refuse to dance with. That being said, I have an opportunity to speak up and call this NOT TRUE!
Suzi and I have a very “Real” family and life. We have six successful children and in-laws, and our first grand-baby on the way. We run a thriving coaching business and we pay our taxes. We spend our lives sharing a message of hope, healing, love and abundance. Our intention is to love our fellow people and accept others differences even if those differences are something we choose not to live in. There really is no room for judgment as we are all living from what we believe and understand because of our personal life experience. This is the process of life and it is beautiful.
When a human being falls in love with another human being and they choose to build a life and family unit together, I call that love. I respect that there are those that would not choose to live the life that I live and I honor that. But calling my family counterfeit comes from nothing but pure ignorance and illusion.
The one thing I know for sure is that love is the only thing on this planet that is “Real.” I feel God in every movement of love.
My heart feels saddened because many family members that I love are part of this organization, and I can only imagine the distress they may feel hearing this comment and trying to reconcile their love for my soon-to-be legal spouse, myself, our children, and grandchildren. What deep conflict must be happening through many, many, many people.
There will come a day when there’s only peace and love on this planet, and there will come a day when there will be no more pitting families against each other. And what a grand and glorious day that will be.