Love is a hot topic, but “relationship” is even hotter, wouldn’t you agree?
“Relationship is the most intense work you’ll ever do…it’s the highest highs, and the lowest lows. It feels like it will exalt you, or destroy you.” Tiffany Rose
Often we’re asked how you can know if this relationship is the “one.” If the person you’re with is the “right” one for you.
There are a many indicators to this relationship being your “one.”
These 4 are very important and should be at the top of your list:
When you met you wildly and madly *attracted to each other. In essence, you couldn’t get enough of each other. [Read through our blog posts to learn more about the importance of the masculine/feminine dynamic in relationship.]
When you’re together you feel a sense of well-being and peace.
You are both 100% committed to your relationship, which means that no matter how mad you get, you’re BOTH committed to working through it.
You want to be the best YOU that you can be, for yourself and your SO (significant other).
So, if you said, “yes,” to these 4 things, you’re most definitely on the right path to relationship happiness.
If you used to be here but no longer enjoy the sweetness of your relationship, it’s time for a tune up and a sit on the red couch may be in order.
Either way, we’re here to help you have a life and relationship you love.
*Enjoying strong sexual chemistry requires one of you being more Masculine Thinking and one of being more Feminine Feeling (being more masculine or more feminine expressed, has absolutely nothing to do with gender).
It’s video day! It’s been a while but we’re back to our shenanigans.
Today’s topic: 5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man (DM)
*We used “man” as a quick and easy title, but you know the drill, we’re talking about captivating the Dominant Masculine thinking person.
If you don’t know what in Sam Hill we’re talking about, click the yellow button at the bottom and find out for yourself if you think more masculine or feminine (it has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with the way you think).
We get a little saucey in our video, but more that that we’re here to help you have a life and relationship you love.
The 5 things we mention in the video are simple to do, just start where you are, that’s good enough.
May this day wrap you up and kiss your face off.
P.S. Are you or any of your friends needing some loving support, we’re here to help you and those you love, to be your happiest and free-est (yes we made that word up) selves. Contact Jack at 801.243.4460 to apply for a complimentary consult, and explore coaching with us.
How are you feeling right now? Happy? Sad? Frazzled?
Is it one of those days when you feel like everything is going your way, or is it a day when you’d rather just throw in the towel and start fresh again tomorrow?
In our coaching practice we teach you how to leverage your thoughts to create a life you love.
You might be thinking that it sounds way too complicated to “leverage” your thoughts? What does it even mean??!
I’m talking about The Law of Attraction. It’s real and extremely relevant. Broken down, it means that your thoughts create your reality. If you don’t like your reality, shift your thoughts.
You say, “Nice one, Jack!! If I could just shift my thoughts I’d do it but that’s harder than it looks. No matter how hard I try, I still feel like crap.”
Here’s a quick way to shift your thoughts and energy back into a place of peace so you can be a magnet attracting what you want, rather than what you don’t want.
Take a minute, look around you right now, what is 1 thing (big or little) that you’re grateful for this very moment. It could be that you’re able to take a breath, or that the sun is shining, or that today you’re one day closer to being released from the hospital, or your dog or cat loves you no matter what…see what I mean…it can be anything.
Once you identify what it is that brings you a bit of comfort or peace, express gratitude for it, and then take the next little bit of time you have to do something fun, or something that makes you laugh, or brings a smile to your face.
When you’re in a state of gratitude and/or pleasure, you’re a magnet pulling in the good things you want for yourself and your life.
This moment right now, is your point of power, this is it, use it to be a tractor beam for what you want.
What you want, wants you…it’s the law.
It works for me, it works for Tiff and it works for you too, just work it. 😉
What kind of love and romance are you looking for?
Are you looking for love that gives you superficial comfort (keeping everything on the surface to simply keep-the-peace), or are you willing to know the scars as well as the triumphs of the person that wraps you in their arms, and to share your own?
Do you believe that romance is temporary and the mundane is reality, or do you believe that romance and passion are the truth and the mundane is nothing more than a mere distraction?
Enjoying intimacy and romance with your “other” is not only possible but very likely, when you willingly open your heart to be loved.
Now, having said that, we understand that you’ve endured abuses of many kinds, and experienced much sorrow and sadness in your life, we also know that when you find yourself in a relationship with the person you choose to be with, you’ll have to open your heart to that person again-and-again-and-again.
Your open heart is the doorway to experiencing the exultantcy of romantic love.
Remember, the way to the love and romance you desire is found as you move through the dark times and willingly open your heart again to the possibilities.
The possibilities for your happiness and joy are as infinite as your willing to be vulnerable.
Are you willing?
We believe in your passionate romance, and know it’s absolutely yours to have.
Here’s to your life of love and romance.
Tiff & Jack
P.S. If this blog helped you in some way, why not share it with someone you love. We appreciative that you’re here reading our messages, many thanks to you.
When you become the conscious creator of your own life, you’re claiming your FREE SPIRIT self.
What does becoming a conscious creator of your own life mean? It means you understand that your thoughts are creating your reality and you have the say over what you’re going to create.
It’s up to you, baby.
Living As a Free Spirit means you’ll march to the beat of your own drum, led by your heart’s desires. You’ll be inspired to do things differently than how you’ve done them before.
Living as a Free Spirit keeps life alive and exciting, and something new is always around the corner.
This way of living feels amazingly delightful. Yes, you’ll be blazing your trail which means being willing to step into the unknown and trust you’ll always have the next step presenting itself to you (and it always does, right after you take that first step).
You’ll notice that things feel different when you’re living as a FREE SPIRIT, they’ll feel better because you’re living in personal alignment with your desires.
You’ll also notice that as you make shifts and changes and live more from your heart center, people will pop in to tell you why you can’t or shouldn’t do what you’re doing.
When you get kickback from others, it gives you a fantastic opportunity to be your authentic self and stand up in who you are, with confidence, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
Living from your heart center and choosing a life that feels good to you is the most powerful way to live and will influence others to live empowered lives as well.
You were not placed on this planet to conform to old traditions and paradigms or someone else’s idea of who you “should” be.
You’re here to live free…free to be and do whatever you choose.
When you look around you’ll be amazed to see that many of your skeptics are the ones stuck in a rut and living far less than what they could.
Here’s to you living as your Free Spirit self. There’s nothing quite like it!
Before we go, we have one quick question for you, “If there were no limits of time or money, what is one thing you’d be doing right now in your life?”
Tiff & Jack
Your Life and Love Coaches
P.S. One of Tiff’s most favorite books that helps her keep her thoughts in alignment, and continually living as her Free Spirit self, is “Ask and It Is Given,” by Esther & Jerry Hicks. Enjoy…
It’s Thursday again and here we are, sharing a moment.
Thanks for being here, if you weren’t, it would feel so empty.
When we talk about your “love life,” we’re keenly aware that you may be in a relationship you love, you may be in one you hate, you may not be in one and wanting one, or you may be happy all by your sexy self.
Whichever it is for you, the question, “What do you do to keep your love life alive?” still applies.
We share our own experiences because that’s right where we are, smack dab in the middle of our own relationship, day-in and day-out. (Yes sometimes we’re in the middle of yours too, but only when you’re on the red couch doing some coaching.)
As a caveat, when we say DM (dominant masculine thinker) or DF (dominant feminine thinker) we are in no way saying that you are only one-or-the-other. You have the full spectrum of masculine and feminine inside of you and at different times and places you’ll be more masculine or more feminine. When it comes to your love life with another person, this is where you simply MUST understand what your dominant thinking type is because it takes one-of-each for the passion to sizzle.
Here’s the quiz if you don’t know which type is your dominant…
This is the way I, Jack-the DM, keep our love life alive:
I listen deep to my DF. Now you may wonder what the hell “listening deep” means, listening deep is paying attention when your DF is talking to you by stopping whatever you’re doing and paying attention (read our last blog to understand this better). This is a big deal with keeping the passion alive between you and your SO (sig other).
I plan a date night every single Friday night. Does this mean we’ve never had a boring date night, nope, it doesn’t. Occasionally Friday night date night is a damn dud! When I say “plan,” I mean it. Keep it interesting and varied. If you need some good ideas, you’ve got a friend in GOOGLE…use it.
Whenever I’m out and about I keep my eye open to buy little gifts for Tiff that I know will brighten her day. Sometimes it’s something she needs, other times it’s something that’s simply to surprise and delight her. I love to pay attention to the things she may have run out of and buy her a new one before it’s gone so she won’t have to worry about getting out and getting it bought.
I make love to her like she’s the QUEEN (because she is). I take my time, lots of it, and infuse her body with pure LOVE. I take the lead in sex and don’t ask her what she wants because I should already know that. If I expect her to tell me what she wants when we’re IN an intimate setting, it turns her off and the mood is shot. If I have questions about what feels good to her, I’ll talk to her about that in casual conversation. The DF wants to know that the DM knows what they (the DM) are doing and what they want. It’s a huge turn on.
I tell her how beautiful she is and exactly what I love about her. It could be the way her makeup looks or her hair that day. Maybe it’s the way she smells. There’s so much I adore about her that I could go on-and-on. The most important part is that I speak up about it.
One important thing I do to keep our love life alive is to practice keeping my ego in check and not being defensive. My defensiveness kills a good time faster than you can say “mood-killer.”
Last but not least, I take care of my health and body, keep a good balance between work and fun, get enough rest, meditate, and eat well most of the time.
The way Tiff-the-DF, keeps our love life alive:
She makes the most amazing food. I don’t know how she does it, but she does! I love good food, and Tiff rules my world with her cooking.
Tiff opens herself up to me and allows me to take the lead and to GIVE to her. She’s magnificent at “receiving.” Even when we’ve had a misunderstanding and things get a little heated, Tiff is willing to move through the conflict to resolution and then, of her own volition, she opens her heart to me again. This is a HUGE piece to our love life.
She willingly goes along with me on new adventures, and tries new things, which means she trusts me to LEAD. It’s a BIG deal!
She tends to herself in the most delightful ways…her hair, her makeup, her clothing, her scent…all of this keeps passion between alive.
She takes time for herself doing things she loves to do.
She tells me how much she appreciates what I do for her, often. This is HUGE! It just makes me want to do more and more and more.
What about you, what do you do? We’d like to hear from you if you’re single, too. Everyone needs to feel loved, so whether you’re in a romantic relationship or not, what do you do to feel loved and alive in love?
P.S. If you aren’t in a relationship you love, don’t forget you have the Universe, working in your behalf, to assist you in having what you want. Just ask the Universe to bring it in. What you want, wants you. You are the creator of your world through the thoughts you think, and you too can most definitely have the relationship you want.