We know that everyone gets stuck now-and-then when it comes to doing things that affect positive change in your intimate relationship.

Everyone finds themselves in old ruts and patterns where your relationship begins to feel a bit, well…stale. The Modern Relationship is a whole new ballgame, all of the “old” rules no longer apply.

Intimate relationship is our specialty and we’re going to make it super simple for you. Here are 7 things that you can do easily, that will instantly spark passion in your relationship.

The only thing required, is that you actually take the time to do it.


How well do you listen to your SO (significant other) when they’re talking to you? Come on be honest now.

Do you stop what you’re doing, look at them right in the eyeballs, and listen carefully to what they’re saying?

Life gets busy and crazy and it’s very easy to disregard the person talking to you because you have a million other things on your mind. This is no excuse folks, everyone has crap they’re dealing with all the time.

Your SO deserves your full attention when they’re talking to you.

If it’s not a good time for you to chat, be clear on WHEN would be a better time, and stick to your word.

If you want intimacy, passion, and awesome sex w/your SO, you MUST listen when they speak, this is a basic foundational piece to your happy relationship puzzle.

  • Don’t try to figure out what to say while they’re talking.
  • Don’t interrupt them.
  • Don’t get distracted looking at your phone or TV.

Your assignment: When your SO is talking to you, stop what you’re doing STARE into their eyes, and really LISTEN.


We live in a culture and country where touching each other is minimal. Go visit Spain, Italy or a myriad of other countries and notice how every person you meet is either kissing you on the cheeks or hugging you and breathing your scent in. Here in America, you’re lucky if you get eye contact.

Let’s break this barrier down, shall we?!

Everyone needs to feel the touch of someone they love and that loves them. It says, “I love you and want you.”

When you walk past your person, reach out and touch them every time they’re within reach.

We’re not saying you have to throw them to the floor and make love every time you see them (well, you can if that’s what you both want), but we are saying it’s extremely beneficial to reach your arm out towards your lover and brush them on the shoulder or kiss them on the cheek as you walk past them.

It’s not hard and it feels good.

When you’re watching TV together at the end of a long day, sit close enough to touch so you can smell their perfume or cologne and reach out and caress their hand or hair.

Touch saves lives. Babies that go without touch can actually die because of it and so can a relationship.

It’s simple! And makes all the difference.


Are you doing something you love, every single day? Something that opens you up and gives you the opportunity to be more of Who You REALLY Are?

It could be yoga, tai chi, dancing, gardening, going for a run, listening to music that makes you feel alive! Maybe it’s walking the dog, hiking, lifting weights, meditating, writing, reading, etc… just do it.

If you will do something that you feel passionate about each and every day, you’ll be more of yourself and more open to give and receive love. You’ll feel more fulfilled and your heart will be wide open to the world around you.

(If you’re struggling finding something that lights your fire, ask the Universe or your Angels to help you find it or it to find you, and trust us, you will.)


4. ASK

When you’re in conversation with your SO ask them questions about what they’re sharing. This is easy if they’re sharing something that’s deeply interesting to you, you’ll have tons of questions pop up. But when your SO is sharing something more personal and talking about their feelings or thoughts it can be more difficult, but this is where you ask THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTIONS.

  • Ask the DF (dominant feminine thinker): “How does that make you feel?”
  • Ask the DM (dominant masculine thinker): “What do you think about that?”

When you ask this question, you’re sure to learn something new about your person that you didn’t know. And the more you know about each other, the easier it is to say and do things for them that make a huge difference.

For example, because I (Jack) pay attention and want to know Tiff’s likes and dislikes, I know that she does NOT like ice cream (except very occasionally she wants a soft serve twist cone…without the cone of course) so now when I want to bring a treat home for her I will bring caramels, pomegranate seeds (already shelled), or the old standby, a Reese’s Crunchy Big Peanut Butter Cup.  All because I listen.

Listening pays off in HUGE ways.

Oh and don’t try to finish their sentences because you THINK you know what they’re going to say (I’ve (Jack) been so guilty of this and can tell you I’m getting better and better at zipping my f—— lip). Rarely will you get it right so just zip the lip and pay attention.


The DF wants to know that they captivate you and that they’re desired. The DM wants to know that they please you and are appreciated for what they do.


We couldn’t EVER write an article about the simple things you can do to make a big difference in your relationship, without bringing up kissing, now can we?!!

Kissing is vital.

When is the last time you kissed your SO in a way that stopped them in their tracks? If it has been longer than 24 hours, REPENT NOW! Go find them right now and kiss them like you mean it, damn it!

When you’re kissing, KISS DEEP and take your time.

Don’t think about bills, or what you need to get done, just kiss… and FEEL it all the way through your body right down to your toes.


Stop telling yourself stories!!! We tell ourselves about what we THINK the other person means when they ask you a question, make a comment, or give you that certain look. The stories we tell ourselves creates conflict faster than a speeding bullet. Wow!

Maybe your SO walks into the room you’re sitting in, watching Outlander (an awesome series about past lives, Scottish men in kilts, and lots of sex) or another show you love, and they give you “the look,” you know “the look” and instantly you jump into defensive mode and get your shorts in a knot because you feel like you’re being judged in some way, only to have your SO then explain that she/he had a question about something wholly unrelated to you doing some wrong. Can you say, “Asshat?”


When we assume we know what the other person is thinking and make up a story about it, we’ll always get into trouble, and have to deal with a new conflict. No thank you I would rather not.

Stop the story telling, plain and simple.

This is where asking questions is vital to your happy relationshipping.


No we’re not talking about telling your SO every single thing they do that pisses you off, we’re talking about sharing the things you LOVE about your SO. Oftentimes we think in our mind how sexy we find our SO, or how good they smell or how much we appreciate the fact that they scraped the snow off our car and warmed it up for us before leaving for work. Instead of keeping this thought in your mind only, open your sexy mouth, and let it out. Speak it to your ONE.

Kind words of love and appreciation go a very LONG way.

I know that for me (the DM) when Tiff says to me how much she appreciates the fact that I bring her treats, or that I have thrown a load of laundry in or getting the bills paid, it makes me want to be better and do more.

The DM loves to know that what they’re doing is making a positive difference in the life of their DF.

And the DF needs to know how sexy you find them. Does the way they smell just turn you on? And make you want to eat them for dinner?? When you look at your DF and the clothes they’re wearing or the way they’ve done their makeup or hair revs your engine, open your mouth and tell them. The DF wants to know they slay you, that they’re captivating and have your attention.

It’s just so simple.

Say the positive things you think about each other TO each other!

Here’s a quick recap…

  4. ASK

There you have it! Now go be amazing!!!

Sending you every good thing.


Tiff & Jack

P.S. We’re delighted to share some of the juicy insider secrets about our “modern” relationship. We’ll also help you understand why it’s critical for you to know if you’re more masculine thinking or more feminine thinking and why having one of each is the only way to have wild passion in your relationship. CLICK THE YELLOW BOX FOR YOUR FREE GIFT…


Why are you hiding?

Why are you hiding?

Are you willing to be seen?

Really and truly?

You may be like me and most everyone I know, and want MORE than you have right now–more love, more laughter, more money, more passion, more fun, more peace, more clarity, and the list goes on-and-on, but if you’re in hiding and not allowing your bright-yet-sometimes-messy-self to be seen, you won’t be found.

It’s time to remove the Invisibility Cloak.

Rip it off!

Speak up. Share your feelings. Don’t hold back.

Be you!

If the thought of this gives you anxiety, you can start with a tiny little baby step…simply become willing to be seen, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised with how quickly the Universe says, “0k darling, I’ve been waiting for you to ask.”

No more hiding, please.

Let your light out my loves.

People are waiting to see you.

When you allow others to truly see you, you’re making a statement that says, “I am here and I have something to offer.”

Today, if you are willing to be a little vulnerable, allowing yourself to be seen a little bit more, go ahead and share with us one of your heart’s desires, we would love to hear from you.

You matter.

Kisses and Sparkles,


5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man

5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man

Hey there,

It’s video day! It’s been a while but we’re back to our shenanigans.

Today’s topic: 5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man (DM)

*We used “man” as a quick and easy title, but you know the drill, we’re talking about captivating the Dominant Masculine thinking person.

If you don’t know what in Sam Hill we’re talking about, click the yellow button at the bottom and find out for yourself if you think more masculine or feminine (it has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with the way you think).

We get a little saucey in our video, but more that that we’re here to help you have a life and relationship you love.


The 5 things we mention in the video are simple to do, just start where you are, that’s good enough.

May this day wrap you up and kiss your face off.



P.S. Are you or any of your friends needing some loving support, we’re here to help you and those you love, to be your happiest and free-est (yes we made that word up) selves. Contact Jack at 801.243.4460 to apply for a complimentary consult, and explore coaching with us.

Is Romance Dead?

Is Romance Dead?

What kind of love and romance are you looking for?

Are you looking for love that gives you superficial comfort (keeping everything on the surface to simply keep-the-peace), or are you willing to know the scars as well as the triumphs of the person that wraps you in their arms, and to share your own?

Do you believe that romance is temporary and the mundane is reality, or do you believe that romance and passion are the truth and the mundane is nothing more than a mere distraction?

Enjoying intimacy and romance with your “other” is not only possible but very likely, when you willingly open your heart to be loved.

Now, having said that, we understand that you’ve endured abuses of many kinds, and experienced much sorrow and sadness in your life, we also know that when you find yourself in a relationship with the person you choose to be with, you’ll have to open your heart to that person again-and-again-and-again.

Your open heart is the doorway to experiencing the exultantcy of romantic love.

Remember, the way to the love and romance you desire is found as you move through the dark times and willingly open your heart again to the possibilities.

The possibilities for your happiness and joy are as infinite as your willing to be vulnerable.

Are you willing?

We believe in your passionate romance, and know it’s absolutely yours to have.

Here’s to your life of love and romance.


Tiff & Jack

P.S. If this blog helped you in some way, why not share it with someone you love. We appreciative that you’re here reading our messages, many thanks to you.

Advice for the Free Spirit…

Advice for the Free Spirit…

*[Art by Kelly Verstraete ~ 2STARART.COM]

When you become the conscious creator of your own life, you’re claiming your FREE SPIRIT self.

What does becoming a conscious creator of your own life mean? It means you understand that your thoughts are creating your reality and you have the say over what you’re going to create.

It’s up to you, baby.

Living As a Free Spirit means you’ll march to the beat of your own drum, led by your heart’s desires. You’ll be inspired to do things differently than how you’ve done them before.

Living as a Free Spirit keeps life alive and exciting, and something new is always around the corner.

This way of living feels amazingly delightful. Yes, you’ll be blazing your trail which means being willing to step into the unknown and trust you’ll always have the next step presenting itself to you (and it always does, right after you take that first step).

You’ll notice that things feel different when you’re living as a FREE SPIRIT, they’ll feel better because you’re living in personal alignment with your desires.

You’ll also notice that as you make shifts and changes and live more from your heart center, people will pop in to tell you why you can’t or shouldn’t do what you’re doing.

When you get kickback from others, it gives you a fantastic opportunity to be your authentic self and stand up in who you are, with confidence, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Living from your heart center and choosing a life that feels good to you is the most powerful way to live and will influence others to live empowered lives as well.

You were not placed on this planet to conform to old traditions and paradigms or someone else’s idea of who you “should” be.

You’re here to live free…free to be and do whatever you choose.

When you look around you’ll be amazed to see that many of your skeptics are the ones stuck in a rut and living far less than what they could.

Here’s to you living as your Free Spirit self. There’s nothing quite like it!

Before we go, we have one quick question for you, “If there were no limits of time or money, what is one thing you’d be doing right now in your life?” 


Tiff & Jack
Your Life and Love Coaches

P.S. One of Tiff’s most favorite books that helps her keep her thoughts in alignment, and continually living as her Free Spirit self, is “Ask and It Is Given,” by Esther & Jerry Hicks. Enjoy…