Today’s a day that started with Tiff and I heading to the gym on our Friday morning.
Friday has always been “date day” but we’re mixing it up a little. Our Lover Palooza begins tonight at 6pm and runs through the entire weekend.
I normally do the business part of our coaching business (no clients) mostly on Wednesday and Saturdays but we’re getting a little crazy and changing things up (nothing like a little variety in life), so here I sit typing away in a new Starbucks.
God, I love Starbucks!
People quietly chatting nearby.
MacBooks everywhere you look. Nothing quite like Apple products to make your life brighter.
The sound of Ice cubes falling into a cup, espressos being made, “what are you doing this weekend,” coming out of the mouth of the sweetest human ever from behind the counter.
I sit here on a comfy bench seat, sipping on my grande iced americano, and feeling totally impressed with how fast the internet speed is. Nice!
Wait a second, I just realize I left my cell phone out in the car. Never a good idea.
The guy next to me looks trustworthy, I’m going to ask him to keep an eye on my computer for me while I grab my phone.
Ok, I’m back.
Nice people are so nice. It feels good to trust another person, even if you don’t know them.
Yesterday we got up, went to the gym, came home and each made our own breakfast (because we eat different things sometimes), recorded our podcast, washed our “stink” off and then went to work and coached the world’s best clients.
The podcast is about being a good listener, because being a good listener is the single greatest skill a person can have (right after being a good lover ?).
Have you ever had a time when you thought you knew what someone was going to say and jumped in to finish their sentence and you were 100% off base and felt like a fool? I have. Not my favorite thing.
I’ve been working on my listening skills and I would like to publicly thank the Gottman’s for writing the book, “The Man’s Guide to Women.”
This book has quite literally made my listening and therefore my relationship, even better. Our intimacy has jumped by at least half again, and that’s a big deal to me because I love our love and the more we can both feel that for-and-from each other, the better life feels all the way around.
Hence episode 082 was birthed and it was a quick and enjoyable delivery. 😉
We talked about good listening and good questions to ask to spark more connective conversation and we also talked about the things NOT to say when being a good listener.
Have you had the experience of sharing your frustration over something you’re going through in life and the person you’re talking to says, “I’m sure they didn’t mean it…” How did that make you feel? Like your feelings just don’t matter?
Listening is an art, and requires patience and lots of practice.
Now I’ve gotta run and finish editing our podcast and adding the music to it so you have it in your inbox bright and early Sunday morning.
Have you ever experienced going out to dinner with a friend and you’re excited to go, but halfway through dinner you suddenly feel like you need to leave right then and take a NAP? Chances are, you’ve been sucked dry by an energy vamp. ?
This episode covers 7 types of energy vampires and each of their antidotes. We’ve also included a special bonus of 4 quick ways to get back into sync with yourself, once you’ve been sucked dry.
It’s not about closing yourself off from the world, it’s about making healthy decisions and setting boundaries. You are your first line of defense.
This episode gives you the roadmap of how to get to your happy place, should you wake up feeling like crap (because no one wants to feel like that). You are human and human needs are real.
Is overwhelm a part of your life? I wish we could wave our magic wand and take it all away but then you might feel very out of balance. Yes, even overwhelm is a part of the big picture of your happy balanced life.
If you’re wondering what the heck we’re talking about, we’re talking about your human needs. Everyone has them and you are meeting your own basic needs every single day, whether in resourceful or not-so-resourceful ways.
Once you understand what your needs are, then you can figure out where the gaps are between where you are and where you want to be. And then the real magic begins.