As Tiff and I were driving home from working out at the gym, we decided on today’s topic.
Life for us these days is filled to the brim so we have to be extra mindful to find balance between all of the work and also having some time to relax and rejuvenate.
When you listen to the podcast it’s like the 3 of us (you, me and Tiff) are living our lives together. The things we share are part of the day-to-day experience we’re having. It’s awesome having you here with us.
Because life is whacky busy for us right now, we’re talking about slowing down and balancing the work out with some light-hearted fun. Which if we don’t do that, we very well could end up losing it!
Here’s a quick bird’s-eye-view of how to slow down a bit so that you can enjoy today (and not just wait until you’ve finished the proverbial “race to the finish line,” thinking THEN you’ll finally be able to slow down… if you don’t figure out how to find some balance today, chances are tomorrow, may not happen 🤭):
Identify your own personal brand of “rat race.” (First you must know where you’re at, in order to be, do or have, something different.)
Realize that FEAR could be the driver, pushing you to work longer and harder without taking some R&R. And this fear, is coming from the past OR the future (neither of which are happening now).
Focus on the NOW. Get present with this very moment. How are you feeling (name it)? And then focus on what you’re grateful for (one of the fastest ways to change your “state” instantly).
Make a plan and decide ahead of time what it is you want for yourself today.
Change things up a bit. Use a different toothpaste. Drive a different way to work. Any time you do something new, it gets you in the present moment quickly and also opens your brain up to new thoughts bigger possibilities.
And here’s a great little daily exercise I learned from Gabby Bernstein. Answer these 4 questions each day:
What do I want today?
How do I want to feel today?
What do I want to give today?
What do I want to receive today?
Thanks for listening to our show. And we do hope it’s making a positive difference in your day.
When you allow yourself an indulgence, do feel like you’re doing something “wrong?”
Withholding pleasure creates obsession for the very thing you’re stopping yourself from enjoying. Bam! There it is. We just gave you permission to enjoy yourself.
Your daily challenge: Do 1 thing each day that gives you pleasure. And if anyone gives you hard time tell them that “Tiff & Jack” challenged you, and you always RISE to the occasion, and then invite them to complete the daily pleasure challenge as well.
It’s that simple. Pleasure is powerful and brings more and more pleasure-filled experiences into your life. Like attracts like.
Have you wondered what to do when you’re feeling like a hot mess? Today’s episode reveals the ONE thing you can do to feel better fast. We aren’t here telling you that you shouldn’t be a hot mess. What we’re saying is to “wrap those arms of yours around your hot messy-ness and notice what happens next.”
Today’s a day that started with Tiff and I heading to the gym on our Friday morning.
Friday has always been “date day” but we’re mixing it up a little. Our Lover Palooza begins tonight at 6pm and runs through the entire weekend.
I normally do the business part of our coaching business (no clients) mostly on Wednesday and Saturdays but we’re getting a little crazy and changing things up (nothing like a little variety in life), so here I sit typing away in a new Starbucks.
God, I love Starbucks!
People quietly chatting nearby.
MacBooks everywhere you look. Nothing quite like Apple products to make your life brighter.
The sound of Ice cubes falling into a cup, espressos being made, “what are you doing this weekend,” coming out of the mouth of the sweetest human ever from behind the counter.
I sit here on a comfy bench seat, sipping on my grande iced americano, and feeling totally impressed with how fast the internet speed is. Nice!
Wait a second, I just realize I left my cell phone out in the car. Never a good idea.
The guy next to me looks trustworthy, I’m going to ask him to keep an eye on my computer for me while I grab my phone.
Ok, I’m back.
Nice people are so nice. It feels good to trust another person, even if you don’t know them.
Yesterday we got up, went to the gym, came home and each made our own breakfast (because we eat different things sometimes), recorded our podcast, washed our “stink” off and then went to work and coached the world’s best clients.
The podcast is about being a good listener, because being a good listener is the single greatest skill a person can have (right after being a good lover ?).
Have you ever had a time when you thought you knew what someone was going to say and jumped in to finish their sentence and you were 100% off base and felt like a fool? I have. Not my favorite thing.
I’ve been working on my listening skills and I would like to publicly thank the Gottman’s for writing the book, “The Man’s Guide to Women.”
This book has quite literally made my listening and therefore my relationship, even better. Our intimacy has jumped by at least half again, and that’s a big deal to me because I love our love and the more we can both feel that for-and-from each other, the better life feels all the way around.
Hence episode 082 was birthed and it was a quick and enjoyable delivery. 😉
We talked about good listening and good questions to ask to spark more connective conversation and we also talked about the things NOT to say when being a good listener.
Have you had the experience of sharing your frustration over something you’re going through in life and the person you’re talking to says, “I’m sure they didn’t mean it…” How did that make you feel? Like your feelings just don’t matter?
Listening is an art, and requires patience and lots of practice.
Now I’ve gotta run and finish editing our podcast and adding the music to it so you have it in your inbox bright and early Sunday morning.