Does change scare the heebie jeebies out of you?

Does change scare the heebie jeebies out of you?

Does it make you crazy when you’re going along, enjoying your life, and all-of-the-sudden the proverbial rug is ripped right out from under you?

Do you wish things could just stay the same for a minute or two?

You’re not alone in this wish.

This happens often in relationship where you don’t even realize you’ve just done or said something that creates an adverse response in your beloved, and WHAM, conflict erupts.

It also happens at work, with our health and in a million other ways.

Comfort flies out the window and you find yourself feeling like you’re getting close to seeing rock bottom. This is the point at which you have a choice to shut down OR open up and embrace the possibilities.

Limitless possibilities live in the unknown.

I repeat, limitless possibilities live in the unknown.

Even though the unknown is scary and uncertain, it’s an amazing gift.

Change allows us to release the OLD so that we can embrace the NEW.

Trying to hang onto the old keeps us stuck and floundering.

Embracing the new gives us opportunities that move us forward into what can bring us even more happiness than we knew before.

Our spirit thrives in change as it understands the vastness of dwelling in limitless possibilities.

We’re beautiful expressions of the Divine.

Our ego wants us to play it safe, stay hidden, and resist change at all costs.

Our ego wants things to stay the same, to somehow protect us from rejection or failure. The messages it sends are based in illusion.

There’s no truth in rejection or failure. There’s only fear that we’re not wanted or that we’re not enough.

In truth we’re lovable and desirable and created perfectly whole as an individualized expression of the Divine.

As we clear the fears of change, and release the illusionary beliefs of rejection and failure, we’ll embrace change and seize the opportunity to create lives and relationships of unlimited happiness and abundance.

It’s time to break that glass ceiling. Are you ready?

This week, Jack and I want you to remember that as things are changing in your life, and you find yourself in the unknown, remember you’re being given an opportunity to create a new experience for yourself.

What do you want? Think about that. Then, choose to have it, knowing that what you want, wants you.

Next, stand with your feet firmly planted on the ground, with your hands up in the air, held wide open, and repeat aloud, “I receive! I receive! I receive! Thank you God, and so it is!”

Let go of the HOW and WHEN, and ALLOW the Universe to bring it in baby.

Here’s to the NEW my darlings! Cheers!!

Love always,


P.S.¬†What change are you facing today? Please share…

P.S.S. If this made a difference to you, why not share it with someone you love. ūüôā

When I feel stuck, I remember this . . .

When I feel stuck, I remember this . . .

Hello dear one,

As I (Tiff) lay here in bed thinking this morning, I’m pondering the ins and outs of living as a conscious creator instead of being an unconscious victim.

What does “victim-mentality” mean to you?

Do you ever feel like the world is against you?

Sometimes when things feel unfair or that we’re¬†constantly¬†having to go without, it feels a bit like we’re floating in a dingy on the big wide ocean without any oars, and sharks are circling ready to eat us alive.


10 Tips to Enliven YOU…in Relationship!

10 Tips to Enliven YOU…in Relationship!

Do you ever feel like you’d give anything to just feel better?

Need a little enlivening bout now??

No worries, here are 10 fast and fun tips to get you there!

And as a delicious side note…your relationship will shine!!

Here they are, as you do these things they will release the “happy” hormones to enliven you . . .

Dominant Feminine
Enliven those yummy feelings to a state of bliss!
  1. Hug
  2. Be affectionate
  3. Eye contact
  4. Time on facebook or twitter
  5. Crying
  6. Walking
  7. Singing
  8. Gift giving
  9. Orgasm
  10. Meditation

Dominant Masculine
Enliven those powerful thoughts to create success!
  1. High intensity exercise
  2. Strength training
  3. Lose weight
  4. Cut out sugar
  5. Zinc
  6. Optimizing Vitamin D levels (out in the sunshine preferably)
  7. Reducing stress
  8. Eat healthy fats
  9. Laughing hard
  10. Shootin the shit with your buds


What’s your favorite thing to do on the list that matches you best? C’mon, don’t be shy…share!

Now I’m going to go take my Zinc with a shot of tequila for good measure! ūüėČ

Love love love you!



Pissed to Blissed

Pissed to Blissed

You may think that Tiff and I never argue or get into conflict.

You’d be mistaken.

Over the past 9 years we’ve been together we’ve worked through MANY conflicts. Some very big and some very small, with a few in between.

Yep, we’re human.

Sorry to burst your bubble like this.

You may be thinking to yourself, “Well, in all of their pictures on facebook, they look so happy and in love.”

Have you ever found yourself dreaming of the day when you have a relationship that feels good all the time? Where there’s no drama or conflict to work through?

I have.

The truth is, being in a relationship will be the hardest work you ever do, and the highest of highs and the lowest of lows will be experienced.

So if you find yourself wishing for that day when you live in BLISS, remember the dog days will rear their ugly heads and when that happens, remember this, “Tiff and Jack said they have days like this too, and they work through it, so I know I can too.”

We want you to know that it’s okay to feel like crap some days, and to wonder how in the hell you’ll ever make it through the latest *brouhaha (I just love this word) you’re facing.


  1. a noisy and overexcited reaction or response to something.
    “24 members resigned over the brouhaha”

In today’s DIY RelationTips video, Tiff and I are getting real, raw, and relevant, and give you the 3 steps necessary to move from wanting to throttle your “other” to feeling that delicious connectivity you love so much.

As you can see, it’s not easy, but it is simple to move from pissed to blissed.

It’s 3 simple steps just like we outlined in the video.

How do you manage your anger? What do you do to calm yourself so that you can move into resolution with your SO (significant other)? Inquiring minds would like to know, share right below this post.



P.S. Know of anyone struggling in their relationship? Please forward this email to your best friends — or anyone who could use a boost of encouragement and direction.

Here I am, do you want me?

Here I am, do you want me?

Each time I write an article or a facebook post, I’m¬†putting¬†myself out there knowing my words may look funny or be¬†misspelled¬†because I have¬†dyslexia.

It’s possible that¬†my writing might be¬†less than what I want and this makes me feel vulnerable.

In fact today’s message is¬†about¬†being vulnerable and why it’s¬†the most important thing you can do for yourself and our SO (significant other).

Being vulnerable means you’re heart is¬†open and you’re acting without defense. It means that you’re¬†willing to put yourself out there warts and all, and to be seen no matter who the haters are.

This may sound pretty scary but the truth is, when someone,¬†especially your SO (significant¬†other),¬†has the opportunity to see the real you… connection and¬†joy are your possibilities.

Do you feel safe?

Our prime directive is to feel safe. And our biggest fear is not being wanted and ending up alone.

When you’re trying to keep yourself safe, things can feel pretty messed up.

Here are a couple of the problem areas:

  1. Living guarded . . . This is where you don’t trust that you’re safe and you keep your heart closed,¬†while judging the behavior of your SO.
  2. Living inauthentic . . . This is where you don’t do the things you that you want to do, or have a negotiating conversation, because you’re afraid your SO won’t want¬†who you are, or that you’re not captivating enough.

If you choose to live this way you may feel like you’re protecting yourself but what you’re actually doing is robbing yourself of joy and deep connection.

The soul is looking for connection, joy, fun, happiness, pleasure, fulfillment, success, and the list goes on. These things are only found in a state of vulnerability.

Being vulnerable and opening your heart (over and over again) is the only way to experience deep intimacy with your person.

Where are the places in your life where you struggle to be vulnerable?

Did you know that people want to know who you are and would love to hear what you say?

Your assignment:

  • For the next 7 days – I want you to share 1¬†thing about yourself each day with your SO or someone else that matters to you.
  • My suggestion is to share it with someone that you know listens and can be present with you as you share.

This homework is your ticket to living more open.

Feeling open is the first step to living vulnerable.

Here’s to JOY!

In fact I would love to have you share something with all of us right now that others may not know about you…go ahead,¬†there’s a space right down below for your precious words.

Come on in, the water’s fine.

Loves and Kisses,

Tiff (the DF)