Jack and I are quite the team, and have often been asked how we do it.
We work well together because we’re in balance.
I as the DF and Jack as the DM are 2 parts of a whole, and we beautifully compliment one another.
Because I know you’re curious about what our life really looks like, here ya go.
I wake between 3:30 and 5:00 AM.
Jack is sleeping away as I lay in bed thinking about our kids, grand baby, the food I’m going to make for the day and many other things. I check my calendar to see our client load, connect with God and ask for assistance to get it all done and have fun doing it.
Another part of my morning ritual is connecting with my peeps over messenger.
The whole time I’m busy doing my morning stuff, my excitement grows for Jack to wake up so we can kiss, touch and talk. My anticipation usually gets the best of me and I wake Jack up because I’m just too excited.
We get to the gym, then come home and I make breakfast for us and make Jack’s special morning coffee. While we eat and talk, I snuggle with our sweet grand baby, and plan our our workday.
As a side note (OK definitely not a SIDE note, but actually the MAIN note), one of the BIGGEST connectors I have with Jack is when we connect through intimacy…talking, listening, being present, and making love.
For me, making love is what gives our life together deep meaning, excitement, pleasure and joy. It’s the best part of my life and I cannot keep my hands to myself, EVER!
I was simply made to make love. The best part about it, Jack recognizes my cues beautifully and then takes the lead! All I can say about this is, “OMG! Jack has got it goin’ on!”
It’s not all play, although it feels like it, Jack tears away from me and heads into our office to build and run our biz, while I stay at home and manage family stuff. Oftentimes I have a second sleep in the morning because I’ve been up so early, and once I wake up, then starts me getting myself dolled up for my beloved.
During this time apart, I cannot help but text Jack naughty texts and pics because it’s just so fun. wink emoticon
Jack then comes home for lunch. We kiss and eat, and sometimes make love again (on the really fun days), then back to the office to coach our spectacular clients, where we talk ceaselessly about all things relationship, life and love.
Business ends after our last client for the day, and no more business talk is allowed, because there’s so much more to life than just business and work. Dinner time is eating at home or having Jack take me out.
Our nights are when we have FUN. (Come to think of it, so are our mornings, and afternoons, hmmm go figure.)
During the summer, we’re outside a lot, going for walks, sitting together on our patio drinking wine, or playing with our sweet little grand baby girl. Winter evenings are movie or sharing a book together time.
We live to laugh and play, and totally dig it.
Friday through Sunday is our weekend and Friday night is date night.
I look forward to Friday night all week long because this is when Jack wines and dines me, and you know…I just can’t get enough of that.
Saturday and Sunday are the days when we spend more time going for walks, having sex, talking with friends, and enjoying our family.
No matter what I’m doing, loving Jack is my moving force, whether it be through good meals, dessert, sex, loving words or my constant affection, I’m always moving in love with my beloved.
Jack is continually looking for ways to make my life run smooth, and give me the world, and let me tell you, I gladly receive it.
This is how we work together to create relationship bliss, and it works!
So now that you’ve spent a day in the life of Jack and me, what about you, what’s one thing you do with your SO that keeps the passion and sizzle alive? (share below…:)
Jack and I are in your corner and know that relationship happiness is yours, and we want to help you have it.
Have the best weekend ever!
Loves and Kisses,
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Some of that history is filled with sunshine and rainbows and other parts are downright devastating.
I also know that you, the DF, are serious about all things love and intimacy.
Is today one of those days that has already left your heart feeling closed off from your DM?
What’s the answer? It’s frustrating for you to want love and connection so badly yet, feel like you are a million miles away from being on the same page with your DM.
Being a DM myself, and knowing that I’ve had many a thoughtless response to a sincere question from Tiff, which in turn, leaves her heart closed and aching makes me feel like a piece of dog do-do (not sure how the hell you spell “do-do”).
Just this week we were driving up to Silver Lake for a little getting back to nature one-on-one time, and I experienced one of those “thoughtless” responses.
One thing I always do when driving in the mountains is roll the windows down so I can feel the wind in my face and breathe in the delicious scents of pine and campfire all mixed together. I just love that.
This day was like all the others and as I rolled my window down, Tiff asked me if I could please roll it back up.
Guess what I did?
No, I didn’t say, “Sure, I’d be happy to.” (Boy oh boy do I wish I would’ve had the presence to say that.)
Instead, I reacted with a very quick and strong response of frustration (and yes, I was feeling like a damn victim), because I felt slighted if I couldn’t roll my window down.
Not proud of this.
We had a bit of back and forth, “How does this make you feel”, and “What do you think,” and then I got it!
She’d spent a couple of hours that day getting ready, applying the sexiest makeup you’ve ever seen and her hair….my god, her hair was perfect! She put Marilyn Monroe to shame.
Rolling my window down would’ve ruined everything she’d worked so deliciously to create, in part for my pleasure.
Me waiting til we got to the lake to enjoy the outdoors was a definite win/win.
It took a minute to get to that win/win place, but we did it (and yes, the window was only rolled down partway so as to leave her sexy hair intact).
Though it may seem like I’m writing about conflict, resolution, and sexy hair, there’s more to this article today.
I’m actually writing about the 3 words that change everything for the DM when they come from the DF.
Please let me explain.
You’re probably wondering how 3 words could possibly change everything.
Well, it’s true, they do.
When Tiff says these words I feel like I can do anything. I can slay the dragons, and accomplish every goal I’ve set. I know that I have what it takes to create a life that feels amazing. I feel confident and that there’s nothing I can’t do.
Now, for Tiff (the DF) to be able to say these words and mean them is the tricky part.
Are you curious, what these words could be?
“I trust you.”
Do you think that if we don’t ever have resolution to our conflicts, or that I don’t care about her feelings, or the fact that she’s spent a good chunk of time wanting to be gorgeous for me, and I mindlessly am lost in wanting to roll my window down without really seeing her and her beauty sitting next to me, that she’ll truly trust me, and be able to mean the words when she says them??
What does “trusting someone” even mean anyway?
Believe-you-me, in relationship “trust” is in a constant state of flux.
Trusting another person does NOT mean that they won’t ever make a mistake or say or do something stupid. It means that you trust that they have your best interest at heart, no matter what. That they’re willing to see their own part in every conflict, and to negotiate the tricky topics (like sex and money).
After all that, trusting or not trusting another person comes down to being a choice.
And you do indeed get to choose. (And it’s not just once, it’s over and over and over again.)
Do you choose to commit yourself to your relationship 100%, for better or worse? You don’t have to, but if you do, then you saying “I trust you,” to your DM makes a HUGE difference for good in their world.
If you’re finding resolution on the sticky topics most of the time, and feeling cherished often, trusting the DM will be a MUCH easier decision to make.
And if you want to give your DM the greatest gift there is, say and mean these 3 words…”I trust you.”
And BTW if you’re driving in the mountains and your DM rolls their windows down without even thinking twice and your hair is sticking to your lips because of the gloss, it’s time to ask them to read this article and work out a little win/win.
I believe rainbows and sunshine are possible most of the time…because that’s my experience. It just takes a bit of thoughtfulness and win/win negotiating and voila…it’s a pretty damn good life.
Oh, and please remember, your relationship is our business.
And all we want for you is pure happiness.
Jack (the DM)
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I know you probably already know this but my name is Jack (formerly known as Suzi…hahaha every time I say that I think of “the artist formerly known as Prince”).
I love the name Jack and it fits me perfectly.
Changing your name is an interesting thing. Some wise person said, “People will call you whatever name you choose.” Now that’s a novel thought isn’t it. Let me tell you, it’s true!
So here I am, being called Jack….alive, awake, completely smitten by Tiff, and totally into pleasure and having fun.
What about you? Do you like having fun? I honestly can’t imagine you or anyone else not simply loving all things fun.
It seems like each coaching week has it’s own theme that naturally evolves, and this week’s theme is FUN! I’m so happy about this, because oh boy, do I love it.
I love being irreverent and saying swear words, it’s super fun to me.
I love driving fast down steep hills and making Tiff scream and cover her eyes.
I love taking showers. Every single time I get into the shower I feel intense pleasure and feel extremely appreciative of water, any temperature I choose, pouring over my body. (It must go back to a past life thing where showers simply didn’t exist…who knows??! I just know that I love showers.)
I love breathing in the scent of Tiff, and being brought smack dab into the present moment…WOW does that feel good.
Smoking cigars…is so damn fun. I had no idea.
Listening to books on Audible as I travel to-and-from makes me happy.
Kissing Tiff’s sexy mouth is pure pleasure.
I love our crazy dog Jassy running like a bullet through the house. There’s no question that dog knows how to have fun.
Oh and the newest love of my life is the sweetest little grandbaby girl you’ve ever laid eyes on. I simply cannot stop staring at her and holding her and dancing with her…pure fun!
I love it when I’m so overcome with love that the tears won’t be stopped.
Love is FUN.
SEX is fun!
I love being caught off guard by a smile from a stranger.
I find it extremely funny to hear other people’s most embarrassing moments.
I love the feeling when I pause to look into the eyes of the person taking my payment for groceries, and there’s that flicker of connection that happens…it just feels amazing, doesn’t it?!
Today is the day for YOU to have some fun.
Do something, anything, that makes you smile. Big or little, it doesn’t matter. Just pick one (or 50) things that feel good, taste good, smell good, look good, or sound good, and have fun with it.
Remember, YOU are bright and beautiful and meant to have joy in your life…today!
You are enough.
A happy life is for you.
There’s more than enough to go around.
You are perfectly on your path and can’t ever miss your boat because you’re in it.
What you want, wants you.
Your thoughts are yours, and they’re the very thing to help you create a life that has you smiling often.
Every good thing is yours.
Sometimes when the days feel dark and hopeless, like maybe you won’t ever have the relationship you truly want, or the job, or the body, or the _____________ (you fill in the blank), I’m here right now reminding you that it is possible.
Don’t ever give up on your dreams, because they’re yours to have. I promise.
Claim your happiness right here and now.
Speak these words out loud,
“Today I choose to have fun, and feel happy, and to laugh out loud a LOT!”
The minute you claim it, it’s yours.
Let go of HOW it gets to you and go do something that feels good to you, and before you know it’ll be yours.
I’m giving you permission.
Go for it!
And then share your FUN ideas right below with the rest of us so we can all have more fun.