It’s an interesting thing….the masculine thought process.

Finality.

I’m always working towards completion.

Have you seen this characteristic in the DM before?

I live it on a daily basis.

This past mother’s day was a perfect example of how finality and the masculine go hand-in-hand (in a not-so-pretty way).

I love buying things for Tiff.

Especially to celebrate the beautiful mother that she is to our 6 kids.

I spend time and thought wanting to pick the perfect card.

Have you seen the Papyrus brand of cards? They’re gorgeous.

I stood there forever trying to make my decision.

I found myself coming back to the same card over and over, and after much thought, that’s the one I picked.

I bought it, took it home, and wrote my loving epithets in it.

While Tiff was getting ready for the day, I sneakily placed the card on her pillow so she could see it when walked into the room.

She comes in, sees it, smiles, picks it up, opens it, and with a bit of confusion says, “Did you re-card?”

Talk about the wind getting knocked right out of my sails.

Then she reaches down and pulls last year’s mother’s day card out of her keepsake drawer and guess what??!!!

It’s the same exact card!

Good grief, people!! How does this happen??!

(This is where finality comes into play, please let me explain.)

Tiff laughed and kissed my face telling me how much she loves and adores me and I’m left speechless about the fact I literally gave it my all to pick the perfect card and it was the exact same card as last year.

It was so perfect that I picked it twice. 😉

One of the main characteristics of the DM is enjoying the finality of getting something done.

When it’s done we move on to the next thing (not giving much thought to what was in the past…because it’s already done…hence the Mother’s Day card fiasco).

Note to self:

Lighten up buddy, it happens.

Note to DF:

Thank you for loving us in all of our differences and what would seem to be thoughtlessness when in actuality it’s just a case of finality.

It can be perceived as the DM being insensitive, thoughtless, or oblivious.

Once something is complete it’s put out of our mind.

It’s not insensitivity, it’s moving forward to the next “dragon to slay.”

And if I had to remember every dragon of the past I couldn’t put my whole heart into this one in the here-and-now that’s wanting to annihilate me and the people I love.

Here’s to a new day as the DM in all of our finality.

Cheers!

Jack