The birth of our baby…

The birth of our baby…

I’m continually open to know what the topic for today’s blogpost is going to be and this one was no exception. Last week I talked about the beautiful, creative, color-filled DF (dominant feminine thinker) energy and how easy it is to love.

This week the DM (dominant masculine thinker) keeps coming to mind. What does it look like to live as a DM?

I’ve been seeing so clearly how my way of being a DM directly impacts the sexy DF in my life (yes, that would be Tiffany I’m talking about…as if you didn’t already know that). 😉

I’ve come a long way with cherishing Tiff’s feelings and treating her in a way that gives her the opportunity to live with a heart wide open, unafraid to express her wild and lovely self.

Today I’m speaking more to the DM, because I have some things to say to you.

We tag today’s intimate relationship with the word “modern.”

We call it “modern” because we have left gender roles FAR BEHIND. There’s no place for them here. You see, you may be a man and a dominant feminine thinker. You may be a woman and a dominant masculine thinker. You may be gay, straight or transgender. You may be pansexual (you love the person “inside” not their gender). I could go on-and-on because there are a million new labels and terminology to help us understand one another even better. It doesn’t matter what your label is, you have feminine and masculine characteristic thoughts and traits inside of you, of which you may draw upon in different circumstances at at different times, but one of those will most often be dominant.

The #1 place that requires your understanding of the DM/DF world is in your intimate relationship. One person must be expressing more masculine and one expressing more feminine in order to experience sexual chemistry, powerful attraction, and wild passion. Tiff and I talk endlessly to this point…it’s the truth, and makes all the difference in relationship.

We want to make it easy and clear for you to understand yourself and your relationship even better.

Now, it’s important to understand your own dominant energy and what feels the best to you. Most people will be one or the other more dominant (however there are a few people that exress both evenly and usually won’t be looking for intense sexual pleasure and attraction to the other person, they’ll simply enjoy being more like roommates. This is just fine if that’s what you want. We want you to have what you want.

For me, the burning desire for intense physical chemistry between myself and Tiff, feels the best. This is what I want and this is what I have. It hasn’t come easily until we figured ourselves out and what made our relationship the sweet nectar that it is.

You must be wondering why I titled this post, “The birth of our baby…,” I’m getting there, stick with me.

Being there for the birth of grand baby Tulip was one of the most sacred experiences I’ve ever had. Yes, I birthed 4 babies (and I’m a man…pretty impressive huh! That’s part of what being transgender has given me…I have a deep understanding of both sides of the equation), and never in my life did I know what it would feel like to stand next to our beautiful daughter, Victoria as she brought little Tulip (her given name is Ember but we call her Tulip) into the world. I had the rare privilege of standing right next to Victoria, holding one of her legs while she gave every single ounce of strength she had to bring this beautiful baby into the world.

As I watched her push and push and push, and the doctor telling her to push harder and not stop, I wondered if she could take it. Victoria’s face was deep red, she was sweating, and straining, and giving what appeared to be her very life…I could see Ember’s head beginning to crown and I knew that Victoria didn’t know how close she was, I kept reassuring her that she could do this, and how strong and amazing she was, that she was so close to having the baby here, if she could just push as hard as she could a few seconds longer, she would have the relief that seemed to me to be a life or death matter.

My eyes and mind beheld the power of Woman, and I was overcome by the magnificence of it all.

Our daughter, giving birth to our granddaughter and I was right there, bird’s eye view, keeping sweet Victoria at the top of my attention and seeing our baby having a baby, never will I be the same man I was before that moment. The sacredness of life showing itself to me, right in front of my face.

Drawing upon my own experience of having babies and wondering how close I was when I pushing with all of my strength and not knowing for sure if I could make it, I knew how to talk to Victoria and tell her what I could see, that I knew she was seconds away, if she could just keep pushing a few seconds more she’d be done and have her baby in her arms. “Give it all you’ve got Victoria, the baby’s head is coming out, you’ve got this sweetheart, just a few seconds more…”

Pure sacredness.

There’s nothing else that wakes us up like the love we feel for each other.

Yesterday after visiting with our almost 10 month old, Tulip and her mama, Tiff shared again how much it meant to her to watch me standing and encouraging Victoria as she gave birth, and it was then that I realized this would be the topic of today’s post.

The DF doesn’t want to be treated like a comrade and partner in crime, they want to be cherished and held, and reminded that they aren’t alone, that they’re beautiful and strong and capable. That they capture our hearts. That our hearts and minds and bodies are right there with them whether they’re birthing a child, a new book, or a piece of art, and that we’re they’re greatest advocate and support.

That we SEE and understand their courageous, colorful, and oftentimes emotional, approach to life.

The DF wants to know how she/he colors our world, how they make a difference to us.

Being a DM is knowing that you have what it takes to give comfort and love to the DF.

Knowing and understanding your own personal power is a place of safety and strength for the DF to hold onto when her/his world feels ever-changing and without continuity. The DM is a place that doesn’t shift and change with every wind that comes along. This solid knowing that you can do this, is like the star to the wandering ship upon the sea of change.

The DF is ever moving and changing and feels comfort and safety with the DM that can look into their eyes and remind them that everything will come together just fine, “Just one more push, and you’ll feel so much better.”

As a DM you may wonder how to find your strength…let me tell you a little secret…it’s inside of you, and has always been there. If you believe in God, or the Universe, or your Higher Self, and you’re feeling less than solid, ask for assistance to see Who You Really Are, and to live from that place.

You can indeed do this. The whole world waits for you to do this. You’re the one we’re waiting for.

Practice knowing that you have what it takes. I’m telling you, it’s a mindset, and you get to choose it or not. You can feel like a failure and like you’re a piece of trash if you want to, or you can CHOOSE to live as your arrow-like self, on a straight path of power and purpose.

The DF knows you have what it takes, do you?

And I say it one more time . . . It’s a choice.

Believe me I know, I choose it every single day.

I choose to live from my place of wholeness, knowing that no matter what door seems to close, another door is always opening. I choose to trust that God always has my back. I know that I get every single thing I want. Did someone give this knowing to me?? Nope, I choose to know this, and I do.

It’s a choice.

What do you choose?

Jack

I cherish you…

I cherish you…

Dear DF,

I often say how enamored I am by the tremendous power you wield.

Time-and-again you’re the one that most often finds your way to the Red Couch to clear your limiting thoughts, and to me this bespeaks tenacity and vision.

What a joy you are!

I’m astounded by the power I see before my eyes as you open your heart to share your deepest pains and desires.

The agony drips down your cheeks and you share how scary it feels to allow yourself to open your heart again-and-again, wondering if you’ll ever have someone to stand with you in your fear, holding you and loving you and seeing you, without trying to fix you.

There’s nothing to fix. You aren’t broken.

You’re whole and complete and beautiful. You breathe life into our world.

What you call your “mess,” I call nothing short of a miracle.

You steal my heart.

You’re the weather. Dark storm clouds rolling through, raindrops pelting down, only to find the brilliant sun piercing through the sky moments after. Beauty.

You live from love, desiring connection more than life itself.

“When will I ever be understood?” You say.

Your feelings do matter, even when no one is there to wrap you up and remind you how divine you are.

Sweet DF, your heart rules the world, because the only thing that’s really real is love, and you are love.

Sometimes we (the DM) get so lost sprinting towards the proverbial finish line that we forget we’re here to have joy.

You are joy in human form, and you being you, wakes the rest of us up…fast!

Thank you for being you, for without you, there is nothing. Life is stiff and straight, with no brilliant hues to stop us dead in our tracks and remind us what’s real.

You matter.

You’re seen and understood.

Be you!

Love,

Jack

Is it true love?

Is it true love?

True love?

Love is a hot topic, but “relationship” is even hotter, wouldn’t you agree?

“Relationship is the most intense work you’ll ever do…it’s the highest highs, and the lowest lows. It feels like it will exalt you, or destroy you.” Tiffany Rose

Often we’re asked how you can know if this relationship is the “one.” If the person you’re with is the “right” one for you.

There are a many indicators to this relationship being your “one.”

These 4 are very important and should be at the top of your list:

  1. When you met you wildly and madly *attracted to each other. In essence, you couldn’t get enough of each other. [Read through our blog posts to learn more about the importance of the masculine/feminine dynamic in relationship.]
  2. When you’re together you feel a sense of well-being and peace.
  3. You are both 100% committed to your relationship, which means that no matter how mad you get, you’re BOTH committed to working through it.
  4. You want to be the best YOU that you can be, for yourself and your SO (significant other).

So, if you said, “yes,” to these 4 things, you’re most definitely on the right path to relationship happiness.

If you used to be here but no longer enjoy the sweetness of your relationship, it’s time for a tune up and a sit on the red couch may be in order.

Either way, we’re here to help you have a life and relationship you love.

Yours,

Jack

*Enjoying strong sexual chemistry requires one of you being more Masculine Thinking and one of being more Feminine Feeling (being more masculine or more feminine expressed, has absolutely nothing to do with gender).

 

 

5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man

5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man

Hey there,

It’s video day! It’s been a while but we’re back to our shenanigans.

Today’s topic: 5 Ways to Captivate Your *Man (DM)

*We used “man” as a quick and easy title, but you know the drill, we’re talking about captivating the Dominant Masculine thinking person.

If you don’t know what in Sam Hill we’re talking about, click the yellow button at the bottom and find out for yourself if you think more masculine or feminine (it has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with the way you think).

We get a little saucey in our video, but more that that we’re here to help you have a life and relationship you love.

 

The 5 things we mention in the video are simple to do, just start where you are, that’s good enough.

May this day wrap you up and kiss your face off.

Love,

Jack

P.S. Are you or any of your friends needing some loving support, we’re here to help you and those you love, to be your happiest and free-est (yes we made that word up) selves. Contact Jack at 801.243.4460 to apply for a complimentary consult, and explore coaching with us.

Rough day?

Rough day?

How are you feeling right now? Happy? Sad? Frazzled?

Is it one of those days when you feel like everything is going your way, or is it a day when you’d rather just throw in the towel and start fresh again tomorrow?

In our coaching practice we teach you how to leverage your thoughts to create a life you love.

You might be thinking that it sounds way too complicated to “leverage” your thoughts? What does it even mean??!

I’m talking about The Law of Attraction. It’s real and extremely relevant. Broken down, it means that your thoughts create your reality. If you don’t like your reality, shift your thoughts.

You say, “Nice one, Jack!! If I could just shift my thoughts I’d do it but that’s harder than it looks. No matter how hard I try, I still feel like crap.”

Here’s a quick way to shift your thoughts and energy back into a place of peace so you can be a magnet attracting what you want, rather than what you don’t want. 



Try this:

Take a minute, look around you right now, what is 1 thing (big or little) that you’re grateful for this very moment. It could be that you’re able to take a breath, or that the sun is shining, or that today you’re one day closer to being released from the hospital, or your dog or cat loves you no matter what…see what I mean…it can be anything.

Once you identify what it is that brings you a bit of comfort or peace, express gratitude for it, and then take the next little bit of time you have to do something fun, or something that makes you laugh, or brings a smile to your face.



When you’re in a state of gratitude and/or pleasure, you’re a magnet pulling in the good things you want for yourself and your life.

This moment right now, is your point of power, this is it, use it to be a tractor beam for what you want.

What you want, wants you…it’s the law. 

It works for me, it works for Tiff and it works for you too, just work it. 😉

Always yours,

Jack